It's one of the very first lectures that you come to in the app. I have to read the transcript because I can't stand the voice of the woman who reads the lectures. I understand she's one of the founders/creators of the app. She does that thing that some women speakers do called
"vocal fry," where the speaker pitches her voice low at the end of sentences and it changes to a growl. Hearing her voice makes me want to hurl my phone across the room. But at the bottom of the screen is an option to read the transcript. Another good Curable lecture is the one called "Pain Catastrophizing."
I think the only way to truly test Outcome Independence is to flat, f****ng
give up. Not as a way of achieving results through the back door, as it were, but just throwing up your hands in weary surrender to the circumstances. And I'm not sure "acceptance" (whatever that is) has to be part of it. I think it's more of a draining of expectations. You go to the cupboard of strategies, techniques, modalities and when you open it a moth flies out and it's totally bare. Kind of like when people try a bunch of dating apps and go on a bunch of dates over a period of years and finally conclude there is just no one out there. And the next day they meet The One. As was said above, there is a lot of mystery about how all of this (and indeed, Life Itself) works. Maybe the reason giving up can cause such a shift (if it really IS authentic
giving up) is that it clears the decks. Sweeps away all plans, expectations, agendas, and even hope. If hope, as Emily Dickinson says, is "the thing with feathers," then giving up is taking a cast iron frying pan and smashing that annoying, fluffy trickster who has led us on a path to nowhere for years.
I'm up early on a Saturday morning because I was awakened (and have been for many months) by excruciating pain in my legs. Yesterday it had me up at 4. This morning at 5--but only in the right leg today. A couple of years ago it was in my right shoulder and eventually that went away, but my legs started hurting. I won't hijack, but just wanted to say that I'm in this club, too, and I'm constantly searching for answers.
Early morning thoughts... no coffee yet...