Great little article about letting go of rigid thinking

JanAtheCPA

JanAtheCPA

Beloved Grand Eagle
This article has some great common-sense tips for resolving to be more open, flexible, and self-compassionate when adopting new healthy habits in the new year: https://www.seattletimes.com/life/wellness/two-numbers-to-ignore-and-three-pieces-of-nutrition-advice-for-2024 (2 numbers to ignore and 3 pieces of nutrition advice for 2024)

Here's the best sub-section, which can be applied 100% to the TMS recovery process (that's my bolding on the fifth item and the quote):


Trade all-or-nothing for “good enough”
There are too many ways that all-or-nothing, black-or-white thinking gets in the way of caring for ourselves. Some things I’ve seen in my clients, as well as friends and family:
  • The idea that it’s not worth exercising if you don’t have at least X time to commit to it.
  • The belief that if at some point during day you “fail” to eat “perfectly,” then it doesn’t matter what you eat the rest of the day.
  • Abandoning a new habit because you forgot to do the thing once.
  • Holding off on doing something new until you’re sure you can do it “perfectly.”
Perfectionism can stop us from taking positive actions that support our health and well-being, and it can make us abandon new good-for-us habits if we falter, and shame sets in. Shame is never a positive motivator for change. Going for “good enough” and extending ourselves some self-compassion — which is the antidote for shame — can help us keep moving forward. To paraphrase the philosopher Voltaire, don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Think progress, not perfection.

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Now I'm trying to decide whether to send the article to a friend, who gets up and marches in place if she thinks she won't hit her 10,000 steps for the day - and she does this while we're supposedly socializing. It's not just vaguely annoying - I have also thought that it's obsessive, and she is, of course, prone to anxiety and TMS symptoms. Now we know that not only is 10,000 steps a fake number and scientifically excessive, but that trying to reach it every day might be counteracting health benefits due to the stress of an irrational obsession!
 
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Old article and thread but bumping it. I could relate to all 4 bullets above! It’s about the need for control. I’m letting things go recently and finding feelings of more compassion toward myself and less anxiety. Wow…
 
JanAtheCPA said:
This article has some great common-sense tips for resolving to be more open, flexible, and self-compassionate when adopting new healthy habits in the new year: https://www.seattletimes.com/life/wellness/two-numbers-to-ignore-and-three-pieces-of-nutrition-advice-for-2024 (2 numbers to ignore and 3 pieces of nutrition advice for 2024)

Here's the best sub-section, which can be applied 100% to the TMS recovery process (that's my bolding on the fifth item and the quote):


Trade all-or-nothing for “good enough”
There are too many ways that all-or-nothing, black-or-white thinking gets in the way of caring for ourselves. Some things I’ve seen in my clients, as well as friends and family:
  • The idea that it’s not worth exercising if you don’t have at least X time to commit to it.
  • The belief that if at some point during day you “fail” to eat “perfectly,” then it doesn’t matter what you eat the rest of the day.
  • Abandoning a new habit because you forgot to do the thing once.
  • Holding off on doing something new until you’re sure you can do it “perfectly.”
Perfectionism can stop us from taking positive actions that support our health and well-being, and it can make us abandon new good-for-us habits if we falter, and shame sets in. Shame is never a positive motivator for change. Going for “good enough” and extending ourselves some self-compassion — which is the antidote for shame — can help us keep moving forward. To paraphrase the philosopher Voltaire, don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good. Think progress, not perfection.

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Now I'm trying to decide whether to send the article to a friend, who gets up and marches in place if she thinks she won't hit her 10,000 steps for the day - and she does this while we're supposedly socializing. It's not just vaguely annoying - I have also thought that it's obsessive, and she is, of course, prone to anxiety and TMS symptoms. Now we know that not only is 10,000 steps a fake number and scientifically excessive, but that trying to reach it every day might be counteracting health benefits due to the stress of an irrational obsession!
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Thanks! But, your post is a bit longer so I want to read it under the right circumstances. I didn't get a chance yet. Waiting for the right time. Put it aside last new year's b/c I just wasn't journaling right, so I took a break from all TMS work--figured I'd try this New Year's.
Was going to on the weekend with coffee, but realized I was low on the Hazelnut coffee I love. And, then it snowed today.
Also, I don't have enough of a familiarity with Voltaire, so I should get some studying in before going there...
 
JanAtheCPA said:
Now I'm trying to decide whether to send the article to a friend, who gets up and marches in place if she thinks she won't hit her 10,000 steps for the day
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If I may offer a counterpoint...

I personally work best with a concrete, black/white goal - and I like to start the new year with a new set of - NOT resolutions - but goals that I feel will enact good change for me in the coming year. I usually carryover the ones I think are working, drop those that don't (usually drop those prior to year end) and try to include a number that are specifically NOT physical. In fact I think it's Dave Ramsey that suggests starting each year with goals around 7 different areas: spiritual, intellectual, financial, fitness, family, career, and social. I think that's a pretty good list of categories, but I admit I don't hit all of them with mine.

In full disclosure, I too have a 10K steps/day goal, which I have hit for now 6+ years running. I'm a runner, so this usually takes care of itself, but on the days I don't run it causes me to take specific walks (I take my dog). I have found these walks to be beneficial to me as a time for reflection, or to let my mind wonder, or to get out of the house, or to take in nature - the list goes on. If I didn't have this concrete goal of 10K steps, would I have made that revelation? Knowing myself, I don't think I would. And that's my point, I think we're all different enough that these things work different on and through us.

I definitely see your point though - I would be annoyed by someone just standing up and walking in place mid-conversation too. :) So probably the answer is something like the old saying "all things in moderation - including moderation."
 
Bonnard said:
Thanks! But, your post is a bit longer so I want to read it under the right circumstances. I didn't get a chance yet. Waiting for the right time. Put it aside last new year's b/c I just wasn't journaling right, so I took a break from all TMS work--figured I'd try this New Year's.
Was going to on the weekend with coffee, but realized I was low on the Hazelnut coffee I love. And, then it snowed today.
Also, I don't have enough of a familiarity with Voltaire, so I should get some studying in before going there...
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:hilarious::hilarious::hilarious:

You'd best watch out, my friend - - this may be a bit subtle for those inclined to take everything a leeeeeetle too seriously:p
 
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