Jilly
Well known member
I'm going to remember this .. great visual, Ericyour so right guys-i was just telling my fiance the other day that we didnt need to
get all bent out of shape when we go over our repressions-we dont even have to hit at the hard ones till were ready-i told ninfa that all we had to do was hit at the tinnacles-its like an octopus and as long as we hit at its legs we break the tree.see ,we dont always have to go in for the jugular.as jilly said -this is some truth here.
im glad its being lenghtened
I've bottled up my rage in a work situation I've wound up getting ill not just emotionally, but physically. I guess I learned never to express my true feelings around my parents when I was a kid and continued the practice into adulthood and the working world. You don't have to throw a tantrum either. That's just a symptom of bottled up rage due to repressed emotionality. But letting a supervisor know that it makes you mad may lead to a different management style on their part the next time such a situation arises.
We have definite neural pathways that are set and activated when triggered but we also have neural plasticity to practice and learn new pathways and behaviors. Communication is good, let the supervisor know if they have ears to hear, but some supervisors do not know how to manage people and integrate employee complaints / concerns in a productive manner. I am so careful talking to the boss ! LOL ! I won't tell them my true feelings at work, I tell them what the problem is and leave out feelings. Hmmm, did I just uncover a TMS vein of pain in myself ? - Do Gooder behavior -