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10 Innocent Behaviors That Signal Unhealed Childhood Trauma
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Diana-M
Beloved Grand Eagle
Great videos, @Ellen and @BloodMoon thank you! all of this applies to me. It’s a picture of my TMS journey.
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Cactusflower
Beloved Grand Eagle
Dr. Hanscom posted a message yesterday about how perfectionism and many of the "personality traits" as described by Dr. Sarno are not "personality traits" but trauma coping mechanisms or at least learned coping mechanisms, which I quite firmly believe. That sort of breaks through the whole though process people who don't believe they can or should change these parts of themselves that don't serve them.
Ellen
Beloved Grand Eagle
Thanks so much @BloodMoon for sharing this video. I hadn't seen this one yet and it is great! I had such an intense range of emotions watching it. It so accurately describes the last 10+ years of my life.
Bonnard
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Thanks @Ellen & @BloodMoon
much appreciated! I knew what to expect when I watched that video--came out with 10 of 10. The one or two I was quibbling with, not sure what to answer--I could watch myself starting to try to minimize what actually happened to me and within me.
The cool (fun to see!) part is that I've made significant progress!!
Just becoming aware enough to take a quiz like that (first one for me was the ACES childhood trauma questionnaire around 4 years ago) was progress.
But, since then, through therapy, TMS work, spirituality, and increasing awareness over time--along with shifting my relationships and changing who I go to/rely on as well as who I spend time with--I've gotten better on quite a few of those 10.
Today, when I look at those 10 behaviors or childhood trauma responses, I say "I definitely have that....BUT, it's not as bad here and I've let some of that go over there."
Also, I can step away. I'm not ready this minute to go further with it. I can put off later reflection on this, and put off watching the video again (there's a ton in there, and each piece can be unpacked) or watching the 2nd video.
I can keep on with my day--not get stuck.
much appreciated! I knew what to expect when I watched that video--came out with 10 of 10. The one or two I was quibbling with, not sure what to answer--I could watch myself starting to try to minimize what actually happened to me and within me.
The cool (fun to see!) part is that I've made significant progress!!
Just becoming aware enough to take a quiz like that (first one for me was the ACES childhood trauma questionnaire around 4 years ago) was progress.But, since then, through therapy, TMS work, spirituality, and increasing awareness over time--along with shifting my relationships and changing who I go to/rely on as well as who I spend time with--I've gotten better on quite a few of those 10.
Today, when I look at those 10 behaviors or childhood trauma responses, I say "I definitely have that....BUT, it's not as bad here and I've let some of that go over there."
Also, I can step away. I'm not ready this minute to go further with it. I can put off later reflection on this, and put off watching the video again (there's a ton in there, and each piece can be unpacked) or watching the 2nd video.
I can keep on with my day--not get stuck.