MonteH: Identify Your Thoughts
In this update Monte suggests a way for us to understand our thoughts and helps us find a way to “Think Clean.” I came away from reading Monte's update with some questions. Mainly, I am interested in the methods other people use to uncover their subconscious feelings and thoughts? Also, Monte say's that “intellectualizing this stuff has no healing power at all.” Is this an accurate statement? Has thinking about TMS from an intellectual viewpoint helped in your recovery? I'm thinking specifically of how research articles have helped you accept the diagnosis? Lastly, as I was reading this I was reminding of Shad Helmstetter's book, “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself,” which suggests that our thoughts are linked with how we feel. Mainly does anyone else see a connection between Monte's update and Helmstetter's book? For info on the book check out http://tmswiki.wikifoundry.com/page/What+to+Say+When+You+Talk+to+Yourself
Monte Hueflte Update- April 23, 2009
Allow - To let do or happen; permit: To offer a possibility; make it possible through a specific action or lack of action for something to happen;
Resist - To strive to fend off or offset the actions, effects, or force of; To remain firm against the actions, effects, or force of; withstand; To keep from giving in to or enjoying.
Any time you have physical discomfort or an equivalent tension/anxiety induced symptom of any kind, whether you call it emotional or physical pain within your body, it always indicates that you have created resistance of some kind with your thoughts and behavior patterns. The solution every single time is to recognize this resistance and redirect out of it and into a more allowing thought or behavior.
It is imperative that you identify how and when you are being resistant in your thoughts and behaviors.
-What do you say to yourself when you are trying to please others?
-What are you thinking when you are being overly self-conscious?
-How are you behaving when you are in a controlling and striving mode?
Do you feel balanced, open and free when in these modes? We know that the answer to this question is: No. So this less than ideal feeling is your indication to yourself that you are slipping into negative thoughts/behaviors which are always (closed-off, denying, resistant and non-allowing). And your system always takes this communication to provide restriction in your body in some way.
What do you do now? State your inner mantra. “I am where I am right now, being/thinking in a resistant way is not helping me, I choose not to put my energy into that type of behavior. I am redirecting right now to a thought/behavior that is more open and allowing. I am bringing the best of me to right now”
Now take deliberate control of where you are focusing your energy (thoughts/behaviors). This is Think Clean, this is your work. This is how you reverse chronic patterns that are causing your inner tension/anxiety. Look for a new or different aspect of the person or situation. Reframe the situation into a more positive view. Choose to have your new perspective be more open and more allowing. Use the, “what if…” dialogue to help guide you in a more positive frame, to help steer you in the direction of how you want to feel. Remember you are deliberately guiding/focusing your thoughts. You can choose to remain in worry or you can choose to direct out of it. This applies to every chronic pattern that you have.
Realize that you cannot just do this exercise/practice intellectually. Be genuine, truthful and open. Intellectualizing this stuff has no healing power at all. You must now genuinely invest in this practice. Ask yourself where you are investing your energy: Is it in open—allowing patterns or in closed—resistant patterns. Once you are mindful of the chronic, resistant patterns you can stop making these “painful” energy investments.
Reversing this disorder, healing your mind-body-emotional being, requires a high energy/focus investment from you. This is a “now” investment. You must be present now, mindful now, and aware now, to reverse this disorder—to heal.
Be Mindful & Stay the course,
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