Let me start by saying that I am a wife of a man who I believe suffers from TMS. After a desperate search online, I found this community last night and felt a huge sense of validation! I have always believed my husband's chronic back pain is connected to his repressed feelings. I have known my husband for 10 years and have never seen him express his anger. NOT ONCE. In fact, his mother says she has never seen him express his anger! He never says anything contradictory, doesn't speak up when he disagrees, never expresses his needs, and doesn't say anything when he's hurt. He's a great and loving man but the fact that he has swallowed 34 years of emotional, mental, and physical pain is slowly unraveling our marriage. His chronic back pain has turned our lives upside down. We went from a couple who loved going snowboarding, hiking, camping, swimming, traveling, hanging out with friends, and the works...to a couple who can't even go out to eat because he's worried that the chair at the restaurant will trigger his back pain. His pain is so bad that he is unable to go to work. Physical therapy, chiropractors, massages, acupuncture, pain management classes, therapy, muscle relaxants, and even cortisone injections- he's done it all and nothing works! We got married last year and our first year of marriage has been one hell of a ride. Our entire lives have been put on hold and we're in a state of limbo. I decided to start the Structured Educational Program because I need to understand TMS for myself and my sanity. Even though I'm not the one with the pain, I want to understand this so I can help support my husband with the daily hell he's living in. There's nothing worst than watching the person you love most suffer from so much unbelievable pain. I have accepted that TMS makes absolute sense. There's nothing structurally wrong with my husband. The challenge is that he has not accepted it. He doesn't like it when I bring up stress and anxiety as factors of this pain. I know I have to wait until he's ready. In the meantime, I'm glad I found this community so I can learn more about his experience. I'm wondering if there are any other spouse out there...? What has your experience been like?