Hi any advice about self pity as a feeling/emotion? Is it one to feel or fight? I have had the feeling probably many millions of times in my life and I think it was something I did to self soothe as a child and teenager when parents were unavailable (which was mostly) and it's stuck and it makes me stuck. Thinking from an Alan Gordon perspective is this my inner child or my inner bully? As it can take on a negative/abusive tone and give you permission for not trying or giving up. Or is it a way I repress so as not to fully engage with emotions. I ask because I want to know how to respond - tell it to back off or give compassion? Physical update - much more mobile and been goal setting with Fred Amir's book while doing psychological stuff on tms wiki. I have had some remarkable success with affirmations said out loud and choosing a power symbol (it's hilarious really I go around singing Ravel's Bolero to myself while visualing Torvill and Dean skating to Olympic gold in 1984! But it works). I have set my long term goal of returning to the ice after many years away. Pretty excited about it. I was in bed 2 days ago but now up and tottering around but I'm up!!!!! I'm feeling the pain and doing it anyway, I've scared myself and family enough this week.