Thanks for "liking" the posts, Ellen. I think that the more likes a post gets, the more people that Facebook will show the comment to. (Even though the discussions are happening on the Huffington Post website, the HuffPo site uses a
Facebook Social Plugin, like we do in various places on our site, so it's one of Facebook's algorithm that calls the shots.)
And many thanks for joining in the fray, Enrique. The negativity started to get to me as well, but I thought you did a terrific job of representing TMSers in the way that I know I would want to be represented. Every time I read one of your comments, it gave me courage to write one of my own.
If it's just a couple people responding to every post, that plays into the "cult" narrative. But if there are a number of people who tell their stories with compassion and dignity, that is the only way that we have to win hearts and minds.
I found that if I respectfully drew attention to some of the more egregious acts, it tended to change people's behavior in a positive way. Many of the worst commenters were, I think, just having fun writing negative things on the internet. Such people are often easily provoked by hostility or rudeness, but they aren't without some compassion underneath. Given that our viewpoint is such a tiny minority, our only option to improve things is to appeal to that compassion, as we did, with dignity and our own compassion.
And it seemed to really work! While there seemed to be a huge flow of negative commenters, as we interacted with them, things seemed to get better and more respectful. I feel good that if a third party, in pain, saw those threads (as many will), posts like yours did a terrific job of balancing out the credibility destroying negativity left by some of the other posters.