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TMS minus the perfectionism and goodism

Are you a perfectionist?

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ValkyrKai said:
I know that I definitely experienced a lot of othering by my siblings and other kids at school who thought I was weird or different and not understanding why they treated me differently was definitely a scary feeling.
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Ha! I'm 60 and I STILL get this kinda stuff.
Be your weird own self and relish in it. I learned that my weird awkwardness was more internal than external, and frankly, I think other people "normal people" are the weird and boring ones. Who needs 'em! Gimme the weirdos any day - far more interesting people!
 
Cactusflower said:
Ha! I'm 60 and I STILL get this kinda stuff.
Be your weird own self and relish in it. I learned that my weird awkwardness was more internal than external, and frankly, I think other people "normal people" are the weird and boring ones. Who needs 'em! Gimme the weirdos any day - far more interesting people!
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I definitely have embraced my weirdness as I’ve grown lol. But I think that those experiences definitely had something to do with my being people pleaser.
And I definitely agree! I’ll take a weirdo over a “normal” person any day.
 
I just wanted to add that creative people or free thinkers are always seen as weird by other people. But where would the world be without them? Also kind people tend to get abused. I’m both of those, and yes, have often be ostracized for it—-except by other people like me! My husband is in a band, and our friend circle includes musicians, artists and writers, mostly. (I’m a writer.) I affectionately call my people, and myself, “the circus people,” because in a way, we are “freaks.” Of course, I never say this to anyone’s face. But if I did, they’d probably get what I mean and laugh. Long story short, the circus is my home, and I love these people! (Not implying you are a circus person @ValkyrKai —but if you are, welcome, my brother!)
 
Diana-M said:
I just wanted to add that creative people or free thinkers are always seen as weird by other people. But where would the world be without them? Also kind people tend to get abused. I’m both of those, and yes, have often be ostracized for it—-except by other people like me! My husband is in a band, and our friend circle includes musicians, artists and writers, mostly. (I’m a writer.) I affectionately call my people, and myself, “the circus people,” because in a way, we are “freaks.” Of course, I never say this to anyone’s face. But if I did, they’d probably get what I mean and laugh. Long story short, the circus is my home, and I love these people! (Not implying you are a circus person @ValkyrKai —but if you are, welcome, my brother!)
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I wish you would imply that I was a circus person cause I am! haha!

And I definitely gravitate and tend to make friends with people who are just as weird as I am. All my favorite people are weirdos. <3
 
Diana-M said:
I just wanted to add that creative people or free thinkers are always seen as weird by other people. But where would the world be without them? Also kind people tend to get abused. I’m both of those, and yes, have often be ostracized for it—-except by other people like me! My husband is in a band, and our friend circle includes musicians, artists and writers, mostly. (I’m a writer.) I affectionately call my people, and myself, “the circus people,” because in a way, we are “freaks.” Of course, I never say this to anyone’s face. But if I did, they’d probably get what I mean and laugh. Long story short, the circus is my home, and I love these people! (Not implying you are a circus person @ValkyrKai —but if you are, welcome, my brother!)
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Circus people unite!
 
Diana-M said:
I just wanted to add that creative people or free thinkers are always seen as weird by other people. But where would the world be without them? Also kind people tend to get abused. I’m both of those, and yes, have often be ostracized for it—-except by other people like me! My husband is in a band, and our friend circle includes musicians, artists and writers, mostly. (I’m a writer.) I affectionately call my people, and myself, “the circus people,” because in a way, we are “freaks.” Of course, I never say this to anyone’s face. But if I did, they’d probably get what I mean and laugh. Long story short, the circus is my home, and I love these people! (Not implying you are a circus person @ValkyrKai —but if you are, welcome, my brother!)
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I think we are twins! My husband is in a band. Our friends are all into music and/ or are music writers and/or are in the music biz in some way!
 
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