goodism

hi everyone, Well I can’t believe it’s been almost been year since I joined the forum. And I’ve been on here every day. It has taught me so much it’s beyond all description. It’s also kept me alive with Hope and helped me solidify my complete belief that I have TMS. lately I’m feeling that...

Hi! I’m a big fan of journaling. I’m literally learning more about myself from journaling than I ever thought possible. Anyway, a technique I found on the wiki by @AndrewMillerMFT looked interesting and I tried it. It was Really good! Per Andrew’s instructions, I come to find out (in my...

I see a lot of people lump all of us with TMS into the category of perfectionism and often goodism. I struggled for a couple of years to accept TMS, because in large, I am not either of these. Sure, I have made it far in life, one can say, but in general, I like to half-ass things. I read others...

As I'm working my way through SEP, I'm discovering so many reasons for my TMS, especially in the way I've always thought and seen the world. I'm finding many of my thinking has been flawed and am on my way to turning that thinking around in order to heal. Much of my pain is cause from lack of...

Hello, I came across an interesting book called "Anxious to please". It's basically about people pleaser and goodist. Where all this comes from, traits, signs and how to overcome it. I'm seeing myself in almost every single line of it. You can find it on Amazon both paperback and ebook...

The question to ponder today is what I would like to do after I graduate from the SEP to show that I care about myself? Maybe return to my creativity in music which I've pretty much abandoned to allow for the time needed to complete this course. But to be honest, the reading today hardly...

Hi all! I just wanted to take an opportunity to introduce myself. I have lurked here for years and have directed many clients here for help but have never actually posted! My name is Danielle Szasz, and I'm TMS therapist/coaching seeing clients in Southern California and via Skype. I was...

I think I hit my first relapse in this process. Some history - My work is seasonally busy at this time. Last year, had an anxiety/chronic migraine breakdown. Went on disability. Came back to work. Found TMS in May. I know work stress is a trigger so I had all the tools for stress management...

Are you a highly sensitive person? A perfectionist? A "Goodist" who wants to please and be liked? They are character traits that cause TMS pain for many people. Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you "too shy" or...

Hi, I read that people-pleasing is a common trait with tms. I want to get over this, but have a hard time not always putting other people's needs ahead of mine. How do i become less of a people-pleaser?

Originally written by Dr. Schubiner on June 1, 2012 The history of medicine consists of two major themes: development of new techniques to study the body and attempts to understand why illness occurs. Often these two themes lead to a synergism that creates a great advance, such as the...

Hi Everyone, This week's podcast is devoted to the topic of our resilience and strength in the midst of adversity. I really hope you take a listen to the podcast - especially the first 15 minutes -where I discuss this topic...