perfectionism

Personally, I was impressed by much of this video's content, but particularly with what the interviewee says about, and how to deal with, perfectionism, 'all or nothing' / 'black and white' thinking, i.e. rewire your brain with 'gray' (from 14:56 to 20:35). What she says will definitely stick...

Today I really saw how strongly perfectionism still shows up in my daily life. I noticed it clearly during social situations, like dancing, where I put enormous pressure on myself to “do it right,” to know everything, and to not look insecure. That pressure quickly turns into anxiety and panic...

Hello all! On the back of conversations in this thread around kickstarting the day with an injection of positivity, I started visually compiling some bumper sticker style mantras/affirmations I look at first thing in the morning. I have found them so effective that I carry the notebook with me...

I've been repressing happiness, comfort, love, rest, joy, curiosity majority of my life. I've been taught that these things are a luxury and that I'm not worthy of them and that I don't deserve them. I've been taught that pushing yourself, working hard without rest, without listening to my...

Hello! Confirmed (by previous experience) TMS-er here. However I have fallen off the wagon and could do with a bit of guidance. I'm 44 now and my medical history in brief is: Psoriasis (6 months old) Psoriatic Arthritis (13) Depression (Sporadically from teenage) Anxiety (From late 20's)...

Hello my fellow pain pilgrims! So, the SEP today was about perfectionism and at the same time suggested that I write about positive changes that I have noticed in my life. I turned that over and over in my head, because this past week I had a couple of "setbacks" where I got a little...

I have a conditioned response of extreme pain and anxiety when I am around other people. This began in the pandemic. I stopped leaving the house. I stopped attending social events. I got such pain around my extended family and friends that I began to avoid them. But lately, I’ve been trying to...

Starting this out by saying - my original low back pain has diminished by 90% of what it was. But it's creeping back a bit. There were days where I felt zero pain, or a whisper every once in a while through out the day. Now that it's creeping back, it's more of a general ache in the whole area...

It’s the root of all this. The inner stress/tension you’re generating from striving for a perfect pain-free state is keeping the pain cycle alive. You have to change your perspective to heal. Imperfection is FINE. It’s HEALTHY. Stop fighting with yourself and accept reality as imperfect by nature.

One question that I get often is, “Am I journaling correctly?” Short answer: Yes. Longer answer: I completely understand the question and the worry behind it. I felt the same while going through my healing journey. We want to know that we are doing everything we can possibly do the best way...

There is so much information in our perfectionism. But when it comes to unwanted feelings and behaviours, most of us are ready to kill the messenger before they manage to give us the message. And that applies to other things we may wish to change about ourselves such as our impostor syndrome...

Hi all, I have dealt with perfectionism for a long time. It wasn't until I found out about TMS that I have been more aware of it and have started easing up on myself. I currently work at a cafe as a barista. We are crazy busy and here lately I have messed up some orders. Sometimes it's the...

This article came through my Pocket feed today, and the title alone blew my mind. It's two years old, but timeless for us TMSers. Check out the subtitle in the URL, and the article header, which is "Many of us believe perfectionism is a positive. But researchers are finding that it is nothing...

Currently i'm almost done reading "Hope and Help for your Nerves" by Claire Weekes and this book has helped me TREMENDOUSLY + therapy for OCD. Thing is, she mentions face, accept, float and let time pass. I'm confused when it comes to face, how exactly do we face our thoughts, especially when...

Dear Perfectionism, Most days you make me feel incompetent, ugly, fat, worthless, lacking abilitied and jealous of others (who I deem perfect in one way or another). I won't let you make me feel this way because I love myself. I am done being tough on myself. I just want to be happy without...

If you're trying to get into Mindfulness and meditation, there are some great tips here on what to do if you are a perfectionist or a procrastinator. It may be helpful for all perfectionists and procrastinators to read as it can be used when approaching any self-care activity that we're putting...

Today I've been thinking about certain aspects of my personality that could provoke symptoms. I noticed earlier that (on another forum) I was spending WAY too long deliberating over whether to post your standard smiley or a beam smiley on an ultimately insignificant post. I literally had run...

I see a lot of people lump all of us with TMS into the category of perfectionism and often goodism. I struggled for a couple of years to accept TMS, because in large, I am not either of these. Sure, I have made it far in life, one can say, but in general, I like to half-ass things. I read others...

http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20180219-toxic-perfectionism-is-on-the-rise (The dangerous downsides of perfectionism) It caused all kind of health problems. We tmser's know about this long ago.

Hi there, I wanted to share this video I made about a strategy I use in relating to the more difficult parts of myself like the inner critic, my fear brain, the perfectionist, and all those different characters. I would love to know what protector parts of yourself you notice and if you can...