Pelvic Pain Healed

[peacefulSloth]

I promised myself to come back to this Forum once I feel confident about my healing journey.

I'm writing this right now with zero pain and believe me, I was having so many doubts about TMS and me being cured.

Therefore I want to encourage you just like I've been encouraged by all the success stories here in this forum.

My Story: My pelvic pain started with a sequence of many vaginal infections. First they went away with medicine but after a while it seemed to not work anymore. And then the pelvic pain started. I was feeling so stressed at that time because no doctor was able to help me. They didn't really take the time to listen so it made me feel even more frustrated and helpless. After many times at the ER because of so much pain. I don't want to talk about the time too much, I guess everyone has a similar story here.

Healing will look different for everyone and I noticed that for me. Healing is more about this internal switch. Realising that everything you need ist within you ist so powerful.

Still I want to let you what I did and what was most helpful.

1. The most important step for me was making friends with the pain. Don't try to run from it, listen to it, accept it fully and even welcome it. Meditate and be mindful. I told myself: If this is how I have to live like now, I want to make the best out of it.
2. Focus on other things in life. On joy and love. On how beautiful even the smallest things can be if you just look closely. On how it feels to love and be loved and how amazing it is that we as humans are to experience that.
3. Make enough space for healing. Don't pressure yourself, you can take all the time in the world to heal.
4. It's not a decision to have pain but it is a decision what direction you want to move to. Even just tiny steps make a difference.

I noticed that I didn't think about pain for a couple of seconds, then it was minutes. Now I rarely think about it and if I do I am not scared anymore.

I sometimes compare it to a break up. First you will think about your partner all day, feeling so desperate but after some time, you think about it less and let other things back into your life. Emotional pain is just the same as physical pain.

I hope I helped someone out there, stay positive and mindful and I am absolutely convinced that everyone can heal.

 

[TG957]

Congratulations! And thank you for such a beautiful explanation of the TMS method!

 

[westb]

Thank you! What an encouraging post and helpful for me, who has pelvic pain as one of the symptoms.

 

[Cap'n Spanky]

Congrats and thank you for sharing your success story!!

 

[MelanieHipsky]

Would you say that once you let go of the fear of the pain that it was able to go away? Ive been struggling with pelvic pain since Jan 8 of this year and I can’t shake the fear that comes with the symptoms especially in my vulva. @peacefulSloth

 

[peacefulSloth]

Would you say that once you let go of the fear of the pain that it was able to go away? Ive been struggling with pelvic pain since Jan 8 of this year and I can’t shake the fear that comes with the symptoms especially in my vulva. @peacefulSloth

Yes, first step is actually realising that it is the fear that is keeping the pain up, then treating the pain like any anxiety disorder. If you need help with that you could also contact a therapist but the most important ist that you know that it is just pain, nothing that will kill you. I know it can feel like the scariest thing but it's actually nothing to worry about.

 

[MelanieHipsky]

What are some ways you reduced your fear? What were your pelvic symptoms? I have made SO much progress since January but I know I am still feeling the remaining scared feelings about it— I’ve just started working with a mind body practitioner so hopefully that will further help. thank you so much for replying

 

[JanAtheCPA]

How did I miss this Success Story, @peacefulSloth?!? It's brilliant

And I love these statements

first step is actually realising that it is the fear that is keeping the pain up, then treating the pain like any anxiety disorder. If you need help with that you could also contact a therapist but the most important is that you know that it is just pain, nothing that will kill you.

@MelanieHipsky, welcome to the forum, and I would like to let you know that pressuring someone to provide more specific details is a very common thing, but it is not actually beneficial to finding your own path towards recovery. pS has already stated this truth in her original post:

Healing will look different for everyone

Right now your TMS brain is trying to distract you with irrelevant activities (asking for specific details) which it will later reject as not relevant enough. I've seen it over and over. Remember what pS says about treating your pain like any anxiety symptom? The different TMS techniques are not associated with particular physical symptoms - each one is simply a unique manifestation of the same primitive fear mechanism built into our brains. The way out is an emotional journey which will be unique to individual personalities and lifetime experiences.

This kind of behavior, closely related to another one that we call "reassurance-seeking" is your brain on TMS, and it's best to just nip it in the bud right now, and open your mind to the different possibilities that are available. Our Structured Educational Program is a great way to be exposed to different ideas and practices, giving you an opportunity to try them out and see what resonates. The important thing is to do the work as pS has described.

@peacefulSloth, I feel like @Nicole J. Sachs LCSW Sachs (a favorite resource of many of us) would say that you have figured out how to do this work by "wearing it lightly" - and that the reward is your recovery. Great, awesome work.

 

[peacefulSloth]

Thanks for your words @JanAtheCPA !
It is hard to imagine once you're in the tunnel that there is a way out. Learning just to be with whatever is there, is a process but at the same time it's already within us, right here, right now. So actually we don't have to act or do anything but that is the part where we fail sometimes.

 

[JV63]

Glad I came across this post. Been dealing with pelvic/pubic bone pain for a bit now. Did go to the chiro and it helped but it's back again. I walk almost everyday so my brain is now telling me it's from all the walking. Thing is I've been walking without issue for months. I have been dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety so I'm sure it's manifesting in the pelvic area now because in the past it was the back but I've been on to that trick for a while now so don't get any back pain any longer.

 

[HealingMe]

Glad I came across this post. Been dealing with pelvic/pubic bone pain for a bit now. Did go to the chiro and it helped but it's back again. I walk almost everyday so my brain is now telling me it's from all the walking. Thing is I've been walking without issue for months. I have been dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety so I'm sure it's manifesting in the pelvic area now because in the past it was the back but I've been on to that trick for a while now so don't get any back pain any longer.

My stress and anxiety also manifests in my pelvic and abdominal region. Just a couple weeks ago after being pain free for almost 2 months, I began experiencing mild pelvic pain when I had a last minute out of town family guest visiting me. I was running around the town getting groceries and prepping with no time to entertain. I’m a creature of habit and love a schedule so this was stressful for me. What curbed the pain was recognizing it for what it truly is and letting it be there. Within a few hours the pain disappeared!