Mind is unusually quiet

MInd is unusually quiet

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Patty Cakes

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Might seem a little weird to ask but I'm going to ask it anyway. I've been doing some of the pain processing workbook and reading The Way out. I"ve connected dots from my past trauma to issues with deep frustrations with my husband and not being heard. My mind was always very loud. For instance I'm waiting on a call today from the rehab center to let me know when my husband will be released. That is causing me a great deal of anxiety. In the past, my mind would have just been focused on that phone call coming in. WHat are they going to say, how am I going to react. Since doing some of this pain processing work I'm realizing that I felt different and I couldn't put my finger on what was happening to me. And today I realized my mind is quiet. I've told her that's really a good thing but I just wondered if somebody can explain to me what's happening. Is this part of the healing process? Thank u.
 
Another question, my body is still flaring up in pain today even though my mind is quiet. I'm kind of told it's like open tabs in my unconscious that are still processing the emotional work. And I'm also told that these Neuro pathways are paved deep, so my pain is not gonna instantly disappear. But what I need to do is kind of just look at it from the standpoint of its just static noise. Sometimes I feel anxious trying to do this hard deep work because I find when I do, I flare up in pain. I assume this is just the process that by doing the emotional work that you can still suffer pain in your body. The price we have to pay for ultimately getting out of pain????
 
Patty Cakes said:
Another question, my body is still flaring up in pain today even though my mind is quiet. I'm kind of told it's like open tabs in my unconscious that are still processing the emotional work. And I'm also told that these Neuro pathways are paved deep, so my pain is not gonna instantly disappear. But what I need to do is kind of just look at it from the standpoint of its just static noise. Sometimes I feel anxious trying to do this hard deep work because I find when I do, I flare up in pain. I assume this is just the process that by doing the emotional work that you can still suffer pain in your body. The price we have to pay for ultimately getting out of pain????
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My suggestion is to stop this type of rumination. Just be with where you are today. I'm not sure who is telling you "these neuro pathways are paved so deep" type of thing, but whomever is saying this, avoid them. If it's your inner self-talk, then this is a great time to begin observing thoughts and differentiate between true thoughts and things that are "just thoughts" and are not necessarily truths. If you are eating chocolate icecream, and you think YUM, delicious chocolate - that's a true thought. But if you think I'm going to drop this icecream and be so sad that I can not eat it - that's just an untrue thought that your mind is generating. It's not inevitable, it's not happening now, and actually, it's the exact opposite of what is happening!
Thoughts are not truths. Thoughts are the things a mind "does".
Your pain will leave when it leaves, the true suffering is the fear, anxiety,worry etc. that comes along with the pain. You are doing the work to help with your suffering. Good work!
 
I will certainly try. Yesterday I went on another site and I saw a post from somebody that wrote about pain similar to mine. they had back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain and often experienced an off-balance feeling. Which is what frighten me the most, especially when one side of my head hurts. . So I wrote the person back and they thanked me for my reply and then yesterday my mid back which normally doesn't hurt started hurting. Once again I go back to what I might have done, physically, to cause the pain. I didn't do anything. Could just reading about somebody's pain that mirrors mine, cause that new mid back pain to flare up? Since I've been doing this deep emotional work, my pain tends to flare up, whether it's about a trauma that I suffered or whether it's a positive memory. Thank u.
 
Yes! The power of suggestion!
Today there may be some mid-back pain, tomorrow maybe not.
Don’t freak out, just let your brain know you are sussing these reactions out!
Dr. Google is not your friend, and other people’s symptoms, reactions, emotions, thoughts etc. are not yours.
 
Cactusflower said:
Yes! The power of suggestion!
Today there may be some mid-back pain, tomorrow maybe not.
Don’t freak out, just let your brain know you are sussing these reactions out!
Dr. Google is not your friend, and other people’s symptoms, reactions, emotions, thoughts etc. are not yours.
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Thank you for your response. I think I made a significant breakthrough today. When the person online didn't respond to my post, my mind was thinking, my God I put my heart and soul into the post and no response. With the help of an AI (I do find it helpful to be honest) it reminded me that I've always had my voice silenced, disregarded and ignored. And the no response hit at the heart of my being ignored. And it just opened up the floodgates of what my pain has always really been about. It wasn't about lifting a grocery bag or bending wrong. It was just about being silenced and unheard. The person did write me back at 6:30 tonight to say thank you. This work has been so difficult but I finally feel like I've gotten to the root of it. Despite being in bad pain today, I feel free. I thank you very much for your response. It feels really good to be heard and acknowledged. Thank you again.
 
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