TG957
Beloved Grand Eagle
I may be saying something controversial here, but please, bear with me, I am thinking out loud and would love to hear what people think.
It is widely accepted in the TMS community that trauma is most often a cause of psychosomatic conditions. One of the most widely prescribed TMS methods is to dig into your past and investigate the origins of your trauma. ACE score, journaling, TMS therapies of various denominations - a lot of tools are now available to investigate past trauma and to start healing from it. But I have always wondered whether in order to fully heal one must stop using inside themselves the language that reinforces the pain and the self-image of a victim. We sometimes see people on this forum who just can't get out of the loop of dwelling in the trauma. The more they dig into it, the more is their pain. And then they dig into it even more, trying to stop the pain.
I have had some bad experiences in my life when I felt trapped in painful relationships. I remember my dreams still being invaded by those bad people who had been out of my life for decades by then and a terrible sense of self-pity for being still trapped. My healing came when I stopped dwelling on those experiences and stopped regurgitating the pain that I felt. I stopped using the word trauma. I now tell myself that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and that those situations taught me about the need to stand up for myself and about situational awareness which helps to avoid many bad situations. But was I just a lucky person whose traumas weren't that bad, or maybe other people experienced the same?
Most of us in the Western world are living lives of unprecedented comfort, yet, chronic pain and mental illnesses are through the roof, even in very young people. Of course, I am not talking about traumas of rape, terrible sexual abuse, or child abandonment. Even in our relatively comfortable times, some children are raised by drug addicts, are abandoned by their parents, or are trafficked into horrific slavery. But I am referring to the rest of us who never experienced anything that extreme. Do we overuse the word "trauma", while at the same time undervalue our resilience?
Does healing mean finding one's ability to sustain life without falling into the trap of perennial trauma and self-pity?
What are your thoughts?
It is widely accepted in the TMS community that trauma is most often a cause of psychosomatic conditions. One of the most widely prescribed TMS methods is to dig into your past and investigate the origins of your trauma. ACE score, journaling, TMS therapies of various denominations - a lot of tools are now available to investigate past trauma and to start healing from it. But I have always wondered whether in order to fully heal one must stop using inside themselves the language that reinforces the pain and the self-image of a victim. We sometimes see people on this forum who just can't get out of the loop of dwelling in the trauma. The more they dig into it, the more is their pain. And then they dig into it even more, trying to stop the pain.
I have had some bad experiences in my life when I felt trapped in painful relationships. I remember my dreams still being invaded by those bad people who had been out of my life for decades by then and a terrible sense of self-pity for being still trapped. My healing came when I stopped dwelling on those experiences and stopped regurgitating the pain that I felt. I stopped using the word trauma. I now tell myself that I was in the wrong place at the wrong time and that those situations taught me about the need to stand up for myself and about situational awareness which helps to avoid many bad situations. But was I just a lucky person whose traumas weren't that bad, or maybe other people experienced the same?
Most of us in the Western world are living lives of unprecedented comfort, yet, chronic pain and mental illnesses are through the roof, even in very young people. Of course, I am not talking about traumas of rape, terrible sexual abuse, or child abandonment. Even in our relatively comfortable times, some children are raised by drug addicts, are abandoned by their parents, or are trafficked into horrific slavery. But I am referring to the rest of us who never experienced anything that extreme. Do we overuse the word "trauma", while at the same time undervalue our resilience?
Does healing mean finding one's ability to sustain life without falling into the trap of perennial trauma and self-pity?
What are your thoughts?
