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Internally generated stresses take their toll without seeming any way out of the ordinary. Gabor Mate
This is the genesis of TMS - stress and our reactions and emotions to it and surrounding it create physical symptoms. Even the stress itself isn't recognized...often buried deep in our subconscious. We have no idea we are stressed, angry, sad, have self-loathing, guilt, shame etc.
"We get so used to our negative patterns of thought and self-talk, that often we are unaware of how much internal stress we are unwittingly piling on ourselves. Understanding these negative internal voices as parts can be really helpful.
If you have a strong inner critic, or other parts in your system who are prone to beating you up, judging you, comparing you negatively to others etc… this will be causing internal stress, because other parts in you are hurt by that because they hear it and believe it’s true.
Mindfulness, meditation, journalling and self-awareness can help us to notice these different parts of us and the way they talk on the inside. When we become aware of these parts and get curious about them we can understand why they do what they do. They are trying to keep us safe by berating us and making us show up in the world in a certain way. They learned these ways of coping when we were young. As we get to know these parts we can build some trust with them and their voices will become softer and they will allow more space for our core, compassionate Self." - Phil de la Hay
What wise words from Gabor Mate and what a wise explanation, and great advice from Phil de la Hay.
This is the genesis of TMS - stress and our reactions and emotions to it and surrounding it create physical symptoms. Even the stress itself isn't recognized...often buried deep in our subconscious. We have no idea we are stressed, angry, sad, have self-loathing, guilt, shame etc.
"We get so used to our negative patterns of thought and self-talk, that often we are unaware of how much internal stress we are unwittingly piling on ourselves. Understanding these negative internal voices as parts can be really helpful.
If you have a strong inner critic, or other parts in your system who are prone to beating you up, judging you, comparing you negatively to others etc… this will be causing internal stress, because other parts in you are hurt by that because they hear it and believe it’s true.
Mindfulness, meditation, journalling and self-awareness can help us to notice these different parts of us and the way they talk on the inside. When we become aware of these parts and get curious about them we can understand why they do what they do. They are trying to keep us safe by berating us and making us show up in the world in a certain way. They learned these ways of coping when we were young. As we get to know these parts we can build some trust with them and their voices will become softer and they will allow more space for our core, compassionate Self." - Phil de la Hay
What wise words from Gabor Mate and what a wise explanation, and great advice from Phil de la Hay.
