everybody fights there own battles. I think it is important not to compare ourselves with others. Sometimes I berate myself (negative self-talk) for being unconsciously enraged about things from my childhood, when really my childhood was pretty damn awesome compared to many I know...I have friends/family who were raped by their fathers and neglected as infants to the point of near death. I have friends/family who were beaten or abandoned etc. etc. But I've come to realize that the unconscious (specifically our Id) doesn't discern they way our conscious minds do between who has it worse or who has it better...separation rage is separation rage, whether it is a small separation or a grossly traumatic separation. Abandonment/rejection is abandonment/rejection no matter how small/minor or big/dramatic. Grief is grief. We just need to honor and accept whatever we have been through in our lives. We have to remember that our pain is a signal to be acknowledged and then dealt with by NOT obsessing over it. We should never feel guilty because our pain is not as BAD as someone elses. Our pain, emotional or physical, is relevant for us and only us...Let the injured soldiers trial and tribulations inspire you to overcome...