I have a son who has been using marijuana since middle school. My husband and I battled with him all through high school. We had two rules -no driving while using or using in our house. Our son is smart, athlete, handsome, has many people who love him, yet he uses everyday. He would smoke in the house and car anyway. He’s been in the hospital mental health unit junior year and senior year due to anger and suicidal threats (he assaulted us when we found opioids in his room and tried to speak w him) He went on probation cause he was only 17 and had to be drug free, participate in an activity (he chose track and went to state) and follow the rules of the house and be respectful to us. He did brilliantly and he was a different person while sober. He got into a big 10 university and pledged a fraternity with high academic rules. We were hopeful he’d succeed. Well he partied and failed out his first semester and did not get initiated in the fraternity. Now he’s at home….,,we told him the rules once again. He’s following the rules but is clearly high everyday again. He’s not working and has time too. It makes me so angry. Waiting for this kid to mature is literally going to make me crazy. I’ve had so much pain since he moved home. In our state 19 is adult age not 18. He’ll be 19 in July. He’s in college and his grades are better, we don’t think he’s using in our house but his car yes. We are tired of the battles and know we cannot make him stop using the weed…..We’ve spent 3 years arguing w him so when I see him higher than a kite, I get angry and can’t do anything about it……My husband is able to let it go and continues to hope….I’m not as successful. It’s so so hard watching a capable competent kid do nothing with his life…….I know many of you will say kick him out but he’s not 19 yet and he’s following the rules. I can’t do anything about him walking in the house high……
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