I can relate to the fear of abandonment. It may be my most repressed emotion. My parents divorced when I was about eight years old. It was for financial reasons during the 1930s Great Depression. A month later she married the mailman because he had a house which meant a roof over the heads of my mom and my older sister and brother and me. That turned out to be a disaster and a year later she and my birth father remarried. More money problems until he died, when I was a college freshman. A few months later she married his brother who had already been divorced twice and was very jealous, making life really miserable for me and my sister. He died after ten years. So I grew up with four fathers. I developed severe back pain about a year ago and through reading Dr. Sarno and practicing TMS techniques (probably the most helpful was journaling) I realized how traumatic my boyhood had been, from divorces and separation anxiety. What cause the back pain to surface from all that was a recent trigger. My closest friends divorced. I had been like part of their family, but they were not separated. I lose the feeling of family and it left me with separation anxiety. Telling my unconscious mind that was the cause of my back pain ended the pain. I then had to learn to live without that friend-family situation. As my favorite author F. Scott Fitzgerald once said, there comes a time when "Even your friends can't help you." The truth is, we're not abandoned, and never will be. We have God and He never abandons us. And we are all part of the family of Man. TMS can be a blessing. It teaches us to learn to live with ourselves and others and even to love.