It's okay. I tend to catastrophize a lot. I tend to be super hard on myself (perfectionist/goodist/people pleaser). I've never gotten into affirmations because they always feel like denial to me. After all, when I catastrophize, I really believe the catastrophe. When I beat myself up, I know that I really, truly, did not meet my own standards. Likewise, I've always really resisted when other people try to soothe me, because it felt like they were arguing with something I know to be true. But when I say, "it's okay," it feels different. The "catastrophe" might happen, but, you know what? It's okay. I'll get through it. I always do. Likewise, maybe I did really screw up. But, that, too, is okay. I'm only human. It's okay. I think it feels better because I'm not arguing about facts. Rather, saying "it's okay" is about feelings. And while the cold, hard facts are unchangeable, it genuinely makes sense to me that in terms of how I have to feel about it, it's really not so bad. Anyway, I was feeling bad about something just now and thought that I'd share. I think it may be the only affirmation I need.