perfectionism

If you're reading this forum you might already be aware of your perfectionist tendencies. Here's a short video I made about one question to ask to determine if you suffer from perfectionism (and if you have TMS you have a sense of how high the cost is) and what to do if you find out you are.

Hi all! I just wanted to take an opportunity to introduce myself. I have lurked here for years and have directed many clients here for help but have never actually posted! My name is Danielle Szasz, and I'm TMS therapist/coaching seeing clients in Southern California and via Skype. I was...

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I think I hit my first relapse in this process. Some history - My work is seasonally busy at this time. Last year, had an anxiety/chronic migraine breakdown. Went on disability. Came back to work. Found TMS in May. I know work stress is a trigger so I had all the tools for stress management...

I am on Day 31 of the SEP, and have been doing Dr. Schechter's "Mindbody Workbook". I initially devoured Sarno's HBP as well as Steve O's "The Great Pain Deception". With all of that, you would think I'd be moving along swimmingly on my road to recovery, but not so much. After reading Sarno...

Hello to all. I want to pass along this Steven Ozanich quote because bells rang in my head when I read it. "The tendency of a negative perfectionist is to look at the impossibility and to make that their probability." My mother, in an attempt to end a discussion, would address something I...

Hi, I think the next step in recovery is letting go. But, I can't let go. I KNOW it is TMS but I keep doubting that going through this will eliminate it 100%. I keep obsessing over it and even though I've seen tremendous improvement so far, it's still not good enough. Even the things I'm doing...

Today the Journal topic is perfectionism and what it means to me and how it has affected my life. I decided to do it as a cluster writing exercise as am a little bit sick of writing screeds! It was a good option because once I had that bubble diagram in front of me, I realised how much...

Originally written by Dr. Schubiner on March 7, 2011 If you've seen the Black Swan, you will probably recognize many aspects of Mind Body Syndrome in the protagonist, Nina. She lived in a world where she denied herself pleasure because she had placed too many demands upon herself and her body...

Walt: Who isn’t in pain from emotional stress that can bring on physical stress? They both can and usually do come from TMS repressed emotions. But this article also can help us, talking about how to calm down our hectic, stressful lives. I’m not watching television news, which is helping...

Hi Everyone, This week's podcast is devoted to the topic of our resilience and strength in the midst of adversity. I really hope you take a listen to the podcast - especially the first 15 minutes -where I discuss this topic...

Hello everyone! I thought I'd share my story before I go completely insane from all the pain. My name's Anna and I'm 27. I live in Poland. My problems started around February this year when I experienced severe panic attacks along with health anxiety issues. At first I thought I was going to die...

At my current job I've gotten some feedback on my communication style that has prompted some interesting self-examination, particularly in its connection to my perfectionism and wanting everything to be correct. Last night when thinking about this issue, it occurred to me that I view myself -...

I forgot to consider this question in the Structured Education Program, and today was an opportunity to do so. While trying to update my website this afternoon, I inadvertently deleted all of the customizations a tech wiz friend had made in the past year to my page. What was resulted was what I...

Hello dear TMS-brothers-sisters! This is Mikael from Finland up north (Yes i also believe that this TMS-thing is acutally 100% world wide). I just had to join this site to bring all possible support for myself to really start believing that i have TMS. This is the fourth day after I discovered...

"So you are telling me I lack perspective." That was pretty much my initial reaction to reading this, but after sitting on it for awhile, I saw so much truth in it. When we are at our most perfectionistic, we tend to think in terms of extremes. There are only two options having it done...

Hi guys, I wanted to ask if anyone here has had a similar response or perspective to their perfectionist tendencies in their lives. My counselor told me recently that for me pain=death. Pain of a physical, emotional or spiritual nature is unacceptable to me, because it runs counter to my...

I was listening to Judy Orloff’s cds and she mentioned wabi-sabi. Wabi-sabi is the Japanese art of finding beauty in imperfection, of accepting the natural cycle of growth, decay, and death. I find this attitude of wabi-sabi applies to my TMS and how I view myself. Some days I wish I were...

I'm a perfectionist like most of us here... Anyway, throughout life I always thought this was a great thing- something to even brag about or be proud of. Only through learning about and dealing with TMS am I realizing it isn't so great! (How did I not know this???) I was watching a YouTube...

DR. MATE VIDEO ON LIVING HEALTHY Dr. Gabor Mate, a Hungarian-born Canadian physician, specializes in the study and treatment of addiction and Attention Deficit Disorder, as well as being a staunch advocate for the TMS philosophy of Dr. Sarno. In his YouTube Video, he tells about people in...