you are golden, Herbie...
When I was at my worst, I imagined hugging the inner child and the inner parent. Angry children or parents often quiet down once they get a good hug, just like a real child and parent hugging off after a fight... I also imagined doing the opposite when I felt completely fed up, barging in and shouting things like "enough for now, shut the .... up, go make friends with each other or go stand in the corner to cool off". I think everyone needs to find what works best for him or her, you give some great examples of what you can do.