Kiara
Well known member
I wrote an "unsent letter" today as recommended in the SEP, and I was surprised how much emotion came out! I ended up typing up two pages on a Word document, when I expected it to be much shorter. Most of my unsent letters have not been so emotional, but this one made me cry quite a bit. I'm glad I did it because I didn't realise how much sadness and hurt I still have to work through.
At the end I wrote a prayer of forgiveness and also prayed for healing from the hurt. I have talked to people about it before and had opportunity to express the emotion, but I think it was good to address it again. Also, I realised that this particular incident triggered hurts from my childhood, so that's probably why it seemed like such a big deal in the first place.
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As well as that, I wrote a dialogue to one of my personality traits/issues. This time I chose anxiety, and I found it really interesting and helpful. I usually find the dialogue journalling technique takes more effort as it seems a bit unnatural to me. However, I gained a great deal of insight. It gave me peace and a sense of optimism to know why I felt to much anxiety, and to realise that I will be free from it eventually.
It will just take time. Writing about it also enabled me to reflect on my anxious attachment style, which has contributed to some of my problems. This gave me more peace and acceptance about my situation. It also empowered me to overcome the sense of shame associated with my anxiety, as that only compounds the problem.
At the end I wrote a prayer of forgiveness and also prayed for healing from the hurt. I have talked to people about it before and had opportunity to express the emotion, but I think it was good to address it again. Also, I realised that this particular incident triggered hurts from my childhood, so that's probably why it seemed like such a big deal in the first place.
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As well as that, I wrote a dialogue to one of my personality traits/issues. This time I chose anxiety, and I found it really interesting and helpful. I usually find the dialogue journalling technique takes more effort as it seems a bit unnatural to me. However, I gained a great deal of insight. It gave me peace and a sense of optimism to know why I felt to much anxiety, and to realise that I will be free from it eventually.
It will just take time. Writing about it also enabled me to reflect on my anxious attachment style, which has contributed to some of my problems. This gave me more peace and acceptance about my situation. It also empowered me to overcome the sense of shame associated with my anxiety, as that only compounds the problem.