I speak to my parents every week, but we usually keep it pretty superficial. I mentioned this in the beginning, but my family has always been reserved with our emotions. Typical Northeasters- Don't show much emotion in public, or even at home.
My parents moved from MA to VA 5 years ago, and my mother has been depressed ever since. My siblings and I all thought it was a bad idea, and while my father is happy there, my mother hates it. I don't know if she would like it anywhere else though. She is in a spiral of being crabby about where she lives and not having any friends, which scares off any potential new friends.
My parents have brought it up to me and my siblings, and we all are terrible at talking about it in the open. My parents are starting to bring it up more in phone calls, and I find myself just ignoring it. Which is shitty. I think there is an unconscious feeling of- well, we didn't talk about all the crap I was going through when I lived at home as a teenager, so why should I talk about your problems? I am also just not used to talking about hard, emotional things with my parents, so it feels uncomfortable. I should challenge myself to start that dialogue. I need to remember, I don't need to solve this problem, it isn't my responsibility, but I should be a good listener, and be kind to them.
For the past week or so, I have been slacking on the educational program. I think there is some frustration, that my pain has stuck around, and even feels worse than when there was some initial improvement. I am trying to continue to hold myself accountable, which is maybe too judgemental. I think it should be more of staying true to the idea of being kind to myself and continuing to work on myself so that I am happier and healthier.
My parents moved from MA to VA 5 years ago, and my mother has been depressed ever since. My siblings and I all thought it was a bad idea, and while my father is happy there, my mother hates it. I don't know if she would like it anywhere else though. She is in a spiral of being crabby about where she lives and not having any friends, which scares off any potential new friends.
My parents have brought it up to me and my siblings, and we all are terrible at talking about it in the open. My parents are starting to bring it up more in phone calls, and I find myself just ignoring it. Which is shitty. I think there is an unconscious feeling of- well, we didn't talk about all the crap I was going through when I lived at home as a teenager, so why should I talk about your problems? I am also just not used to talking about hard, emotional things with my parents, so it feels uncomfortable. I should challenge myself to start that dialogue. I need to remember, I don't need to solve this problem, it isn't my responsibility, but I should be a good listener, and be kind to them.
For the past week or so, I have been slacking on the educational program. I think there is some frustration, that my pain has stuck around, and even feels worse than when there was some initial improvement. I am trying to continue to hold myself accountable, which is maybe too judgemental. I think it should be more of staying true to the idea of being kind to myself and continuing to work on myself so that I am happier and healthier.
