talking

I've mostly talked to other people on TMS forums and groups on FB but also my mom and fiance, a little with my best friend who had a TBI many years ago and is very familiar with ongoing pain. My fiance is all in, my mom doesn't believe in mindbody symptoms and just thinks my pain is related to...

When was the last time you talked with your parents? How did the conversation go? I last talked with my mother at her grave in 2003. She had absolutely no choice but to listen as I poured out my heart for about two hours. I am certain that I heard in my mind, “It’s going to be o.k. baby.” And...

Hey y'all, Just in case it's too painful to read, this post contains some descriptions of child abuse. Today the SEP recommended that I talk about the last time I spoke with my parents. This one was tough, I'll admit, especially after reading posts from parents who have been hurt by their...

Everyone is talking about chronic lyme, that it is TMS. But they are talking about treated acute lyme with ATB and the TMS after. But what is lyme was never diagnosed (negative test although the symptoms were clear) so never treated? In case immunity took care of it but after 12 years a real...

Initially every second person that I met would be hearing about TMS and what I know think and believe, and how it's changed my view on the world. Now, I'm more selective. Are they open to it? Are they leading with the right questions? How are their questions making me feel? Especially the...

I speak to my parents every week, but we usually keep it pretty superficial. I mentioned this in the beginning, but my family has always been reserved with our emotions. Typical Northeasters- Don't show much emotion in public, or even at home. My parents moved from MA to VA 5 years ago, and my...

Does anyone else find that most people do not seem to be open to "really" listening? They talk about superficial things. Or if you tell them about painful feelings, they try to change your mind or reframe it as you "should" feel differently or you should understand from another point of view...

Early in the pain recovery process, I read over and over that I should stop talking about the pain. It’s in multiple books and podcasts on the subject, so being the good little student that I am, I took that to heart and immediately stopped all pain discussions. I remember telling my husband...

Hi all, I'm on the tail end of a flare (pain is slowly but surely fading away as I've got over my fear spike), and I noticed something strange. I have a fairly mild case of a BFRB (body-focused repetitive behavior) - basically, I chew my lip compulsively and kink my beard hairs between my...

Hi everyone So its been a year and a half since my throat/voice pain and tension problem came out of nowhere, and life has changed a lot. I am doing much better overall, but I know there is some way to go. I am just noticing how many times a day I think about my pain and tell others about it...