Stuck in doubt

Thanks everyone. Sara, I had forgotten about that in Steve O's book.

I have a lot of sadness about what I perceive as lost time from the onset of my pain to now. My kids are 2 years older and I often feel a lot of regret and grief over not being able to be for them who I would like to be. I don't believe that they feel that way, but I do. I believe I have been repressing a lot of this sadness. Anyway I don't like to dwell on it or follow it down a path to negative thinking,however, I do feel I need to find a way to express it. Is allowing this sadness to come to the surface a bad thing because it is in a way focusing on symptoms? Or do I just allow myself to grieve over the lost time, but tell myself it's going to end?
Thanks
MC

 

Not at all! To let genuine feelings come to the surface is the opposite of TMS. It's not focusing on the symptoms, it's opening your heart to your family. Sounds healthy to me!