I don't have a great relationship with my inlaws, but it's always been kinda passive. My husband tries to have a relationship with them despite the fact that I don't feel like they try very hard. Anyways, we just booked a flight to see them in 3 weeks. When I was there last December, I got the worst back pain of my life and it started about 1 hour after seeing them and lasted until we left 2 days later. I'm trying to grasp the idea that we're going and I'm going to remain pain-free. We are going for 4 days and I need help on how to not get the pain while I'm there. I'm making big strides with TMS lately. My biggest thing is fear and preoccupation. I remember thinking when we got there last time, "I hope I don't get pain when I see them" and sure enough I did. I know that's why I did too. Any words of wisdom would be GREATL Y appreciated!!