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Self-love causes pain???

Discussion in 'Support Subforum' started by Renate, Jun 12, 2017.

  1. Renate

    Renate Peer Supporter

    Hi, 2 weeks ago I read a book about self-love and for the first time in my life I really understood that this is what I miss most in my life. So now I am learning how to accept myself in every situation as I am, to accept all the unpleasant feelings and also my "faults" . And I am reading some books about self- love.
    And every time I think or read about self -love my pain gets much worse!!
    Is it possible that a part of me does not want me to deal with self-love and therefore creates more pain? And if yes, what can I do with this unconscious part?
     
  2. Jennifer_K

    Jennifer_K Peer Supporter

    I'm no expert. Just let me say that first.

    However, I would *think* that it's not the self-love that is exacerbating symptoms, but perhaps the emotional memories connected to why it's hard to love yourself. In other words, the experiences that have lead to a lack of self-love. If it were me, those are the issues I would be focusing on through writing or therapy, etc.

    Also wanted to add that I am a beginner and I find structure really helpful. Looks like there's a program available here: http://www.tmswiki.org/ppd/Structured_Educational_Program (Structured Educational Program)

    Best wishes!
     
    Last edited: Jun 12, 2017
  3. Renate

    Renate Peer Supporter

    Thank you Jennifer_K!
    I have CRPS (or something like that) since 6,5 years and I have already worked through the SEP, had 5 years of
    Psychotherapie, talked to TMS practitioners (also to Steve Ozanich), meditated, did The Presence Process for 10 weeks, did self talk, read a lot of books (TMS and others) etc.
    Most of the time when I deal with self-love I have good feelings and then my foot starts to hurt more, that's what I don't understand.
     

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