Hi, this is my first post here. Great website, especially all the educational material and success stories. I have just started journelling to express negative emotions tied up with my past, present and personality. I read Dr Scott Brady's book "Pain free for life" and have just started using the program he uses in his book. It is very similar to the program on this website and also to the "Unlearn your pain" program by Dr Howard Schubiner. I have suffered with chronic pelvic pain and irritable bladder for the past 12 years. Major impact on my life. About 4 years ago I did Dr Schubiner's program which involved a lot of journelling and affirmations. Soon after my pain went away for nine months. I was so happy. But then I developed major insomnia and became very stressed. Soon after the pain came back and stayed. The insomnia was due to me becoming hyperthyroid but my thyroid is now okay after taking medication for a while. Anyway I have a question concerning negative emotions that come up in close relationships. In my case with my husband. Is it better to express them to the person when the emotions come up or journal about them? I have started journalling already my frustration which is coming up almost on a daily basis, moreso since I have been writing about it. Trouble is that my husband wants to avoid any conflict at any cost and will just leave the room, rather than risk anything he percieves as challenging, leaving me with nowhere to go with my feelings. So a lot of them have been pushed down. We really would benefit from some couple counselling to improve our communication but he won't agree to do it, too threatening. This is really disappointing as my health and well-being would benefit if our communication improved, and so would our relationship. Anyway, do I risk speaking up more or just write lots in my journal?