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Beloved Grand Eagle
Eric Sherman said:Perfectionism has all the characteristics that immature cognition can recognize and grab hold of. Perfectionism is undifferentiated; that is, it is all or nothing. Perfectionism does not take into account anyone else’s perspective. By its very nature, perfectionism is devoid of perspective. Perfectionism actually disintegrates when perspective can be achieved."
--Eric Sherman, Pathways to Pain Relief
"So you are telling me I lack perspective."
That was pretty much my initial reaction to reading this, but after sitting on it for awhile, I saw so much truth in it. When we are at our most perfectionistic, we tend to think in terms of extremes. There are only two options having it done perfectly or having something be a massive failure. Everything we do is either do or die, black or white. There is no middle ground or grey, because we simply lack the perspective to see all of the other possibilities.
The good news, as Dr. Sherman points out, once we gain perspective the power this personality trait has on us fades away.