That's a "Yes, But..." response to Ellen,
@chintand17!
See if you can rewrite your post without the BUT (or anything that remotely behaves like a BUT). This will, of course, change the entire nature of your response. Perhaps you won't be able to do it - YBS and victimhood are addictive behaviors, after all. It will take some work to eliminate them from your mindset.
We don't go for mindless positive affirmations here, but what I do recommend highly is constructive self-talk. By that I mean coming up with something constructive and truthful to say to your primitive fearful brain which takes the place of the negativity of victimhood. Use logic. This does require being mindful about your negative thoughts.
So when you see yourself succumbing to the addiction of victimhood thoughts, a logical and constructive statement, spoken out loud if possible (I'm quite serious about that) might be "hey, brain - I know that you just want me to stay safely in bed all day long numbing out with Netflix or whatever, but that's actually not at all helpful to me, it is in fact harmful to me, and I happen to know that logically, it is totally unnecessary because the world out there, even though it's stressful, is not actually a threat to my survival, okay? So could you just kindly back the f*** off???!! If you can do that, however briefly, I will promise to be careful and not get eaten by a sabre-tooth tiger"
Or, you know, something like that... Remember to stop and breathe, drink plenty of water (breathing and drinking water are my go-to quick fixes for momentary lapses of dizziness or shakiness). And, always, practice kindness and patience for yourself, even as you're giving your TMS brain a bit of a hard time.
