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Please help, been doing mind body healing for 3 years

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subtlecollision2

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It's amazing how much I'm healed but still dealing 50% with IBS issues. How do I practice outcome independence when my stomach is so distended it makes me look several months pregnant and feel so ugly? I have been trying lately to go a step farther than ignoring my symptoms (because many of my other symptoms have disappeared by ignoring) and actively welcoming in and loving the distention/bloat, but whenever I do that I feel such resistance in my shoulders. Like I start to feel super angry about it and tense in my shoulders. So instead of loving, I try to "make peace" with it. But it is hard to do it when a lot of my other symptoms went away very quickly but this has been taking a while. Has anyone on this forum healed stomach distension? If so, please advise.
 
Hi Subtlecollision2 - welcome

How do I practice outcome independence when my stomach is so distended it makes me look several months pregnant and feel so ugly?
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The same way I practise outcome independence when my legs hurt so badly I can't stand up straight or walk properly (that's the recent manifestation!). Outcome independence, as I understand it, is that we use the information - pain or other physical symptom - to remind us that oh, there must be something I'm not wanting to feel, or I don't feel safe, or I'm repressing emotion, could it be anger? And we get in and do the work, explore the emotions, soothe ourselves, etc, without the expectation that the symptom will resolve or go away. That's not the reason for doing the work. We need to do this work, because it isn't healthy for us to repress emotion, or not feel safe, or just not feel in general.

Aimee
 
Aimee88 said:
And we get in and do the work, explore the emotions, soothe ourselves, etc, without the expectation that the symptom will resolve or go away. That's not the reason for doing the work. We need to do this work, because it isn't healthy for us to repress emotion, or not feel safe, or just not feel in general.
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To me this is a beautiful response.

And to add to this, subtlecollision2, I suggest you recognize the work you have done, every day in some way. Appreciate yourself and your efforts and learning.

As Aimee88 suggests too, the most tried and true way to approach this is to ask "what else is still hidden from me?" Can you gently ask this of yourself, knowing there is more to know? Without pressure, but with kindness.
 
subtlecollision2 said:
It's amazing how much I'm healed but still dealing 50% with IBS issues. How do I practice outcome independence when my stomach is so distended it makes me look several months pregnant and feel so ugly? I have been trying lately to go a step farther than ignoring my symptoms (because many of my other symptoms have disappeared by ignoring) and actively welcoming in and loving the distention/bloat, but whenever I do that I feel such resistance in my shoulders. Like I start to feel super angry about it and tense in my shoulders. So instead of loving, I try to "make peace" with it. But it is hard to do it when a lot of my other symptoms went away very quickly but this has been taking a while. Has anyone on this forum healed stomach distension? If so, please advise.
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subtlecollision2 said:
It's amazing how much I'm healed but still dealing 50% with IBS issues. How do I practice outcome independence when my stomach is so distended it makes me look several months pregnant and feel so ugly? I have been trying lately to go a step farther than ignoring my symptoms (because many of my other symptoms have disappeared by ignoring) and actively welcoming in and loving the distention/bloat, but whenever I do that I feel such resistance in my shoulders. Like I start to feel super angry about it and tense in my shoulders. So instead of loving, I try to "make peace" with it. But it is hard to do it when a lot of my other symptoms went away very quickly but this has been taking a while. Has anyone on this forum healed stomach distension? If so, please advise.
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Im actually trying to respond to Subtlecollision2...re IBS.. i have severe IBS from emotional trauma....but ...found out i have SIBO...small intestinal bacterial overgrowth...this CAUSES DISTENSION. get a referral to a gastro specialist ...they give you breath test. Mine was positive...i was put on Rifmaxafin (sp) for 2 weeks. It helped a bit...GI specialist said MOST people with IBS have SIBO!!!! its only coming to light now as new tests development.....i actually read about it...and insisted on the test...the doctor didnt even think of it at first...smh....there are some great real..not fake..Sibo stories on YouTube....as soon as i read them i realized...my God....i have that..so started the journey. I took the meds...cut out rice/pasta most cheese but take lactaid pills if i do ..and daily Metamucil.....it really heps calm the horrid "IBS growling & barking" gut/intestinal noises.....and....i tell myself it is REAL....but.. caused by emotion.....that helps so much...& Reading the late great Dr. Sarnos books...hope that helps!!!
 
Thanks yes I tested positive for SIBO but n0ne of the many treatments I tried helped. Only mind body work, which has helped about 50%.

I believe my SIBO is 100% emotionally caused, so that's why I don't even consider myself to have SIBO. It is an emotional problem.
 
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