Pain Due To Good Things In Life

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Chimichanga

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Hi Everyone,

How does one deal with TMS pain and dysfunction when the emotions are related to positives in life: engagement, planning kids, house hunting with fiancé etc.

Thank you
 
I have not quite heard this put so bluntly, but I guess the place to inquire here is "what feelings are coming up which are hard to tolerate," evoked by these activities?

I am supposing there are bits and pieces which threaten your identity in some way, or ?

Perhaps you can tease these feelings out and then work with them directly. I suspect they are hidden since you don't describe them.
 
Chimichanga said:
Hi Everyone,

How does one deal with TMS pain and dysfunction when the emotions are related to positives in life: engagement, planning kids, house hunting with fiancé etc.

Thank you
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Our "adult, rational side" is very happy with such good things but ....
our (hidden in the subconscious) "childish, narcissistic, egotist, wild, irrational side" is very angry for the responsabilities, hard work, compromises, limitations,....accepted.
Think about the post-partum depression.
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Andy Bayliss said:
I have not quite heard this put so bluntly, but I guess the place to inquire here is "what feelings are coming up which are hard to tolerate," evoked by these activities?

I am supposing there are bits and pieces which threaten your identity in some way, or ?

Perhaps you can tease these feelings out and then work with them directly. I suspect they are hidden since you don't describe them.
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Great points, Andy.

-Fear of marrying wrong person (not lasting for the long run).
-Fear of being cheated on (my father cheated on mother growing up).
-Fear of responsibilities. Maintaining good job.
-Financial worries
-Fear of being stuck in a long term mortgage, therefore stuck in a long term career.
-Fear of losing my time and freedom

Of course there are many things I am looking forward to, else I wouldn’t be planning all these things. But, I suppose the above are normal human feelings.

Thank you
 
Is it possible you are not desiring to do these things?

One time I was in a relationship with a cluster B... I was supposed to be happy, but I wasn't. I kept telling myself I should be happy. I wasn't. I was apprehensive and stressed. My subconscious knew more than my cognition.
 
In this case being with a cluster B was actually a risky thing and the subconscious made an accurate call.
 
Chimichanga said:
Great points, Andy.

-Fear of marrying wrong person (not lasting for the long run).
-Fear of being cheated on (my father cheated on mother growing up).
-Fear of responsibilities. Maintaining good job.
-Financial worries
-Fear of being stuck in a long term mortgage, therefore stuck in a long term career.
-Fear of losing my time and freedom

Of course there are many things I am looking forward to, else I wouldn’t be planning all these things. But, I suppose the above are normal human feelings.

Thank you
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Seems like the body doesn't like those fears being repeated
 
learningmore said:
Is it possible you are not desiring to do these things?

One time I was in a relationship with a cluster B... I was supposed to be happy, but I wasn't. I kept telling myself I should be happy. I wasn't. I was apprehensive and stressed. My subconscious knew more than my cognition.
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I think like many things in life, there are pluses and minuses.
 
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