Thank you Baseball65 for your kind words.
Colin, since "The surgeons actually haven’t really said that there are things I can’t do." then you can start planning to take back your life.
Here's a Rapid Recovery success story from two car accidents mentioned in Rapid Recovery from Back and Neck Pain
"And then there was John. He was a twenty-nine-year-old computer scientist and businessman who had been in two serious car accidents in six years. The first time he was broadsided by a truck and taken to the hospital unconscious. He woke up later feeling pain all over and continued to have pain and muscle spasms from his left shoulder down to his left leg. Therapy and medication helped but did not eliminate the pain. To make matters worse, six years later he was rear-ended on the freeway by a car traveling thirty miles per hour faster than his.
John suffered from severe sciatica in his left leg, piriformis syndrome, and chronic pain from his neck to his lower back. He also experienced pain and numbness in both forearms and hands at night and when he held them in a raised position, such as when holding a telephone receiver. His orthopedically designed bed was not much help, and he had to sleep on the floor. This situation was emotionally painful for him, as he was newly married and his bride found sleeping on the floor quite uncomfortable.
I explained TMS and the recovery plan to him, and since he was a self-motivated, goal-oriented person, I let him design his own recovery plan. Shortly after our meeting he began sleeping on the sofa, and in less than two weeks he was sleeping on his bed without experiencing any pain or discomfort. John’s wife, mother, other relatives, and friends were amazed at his rapid improvement. He rewarded himself by taking his wife out to dinner.
Thereafter, he experienced only mild and occasional bouts of back pain, which he was able to eliminate on command; however, the numbness in his forearms and hands had not improved, especially on the right side. He had had two operations on his right wrist to help relieve pressure in the past, and he worried that he might need more surgery. I told him that considering his triumph over pain in his back, he should seriously consider challenging the numbness in his forearms and hands as well. Then I explained to him one of the techniques I had used that was quite effective: scaring the pain away!
I used to hit myself on my thighs or other parts of my body that hurt to prove to my mind that my body was healthy, and I was no longer afraid of pain. I had also threatened my subconscious that if it did not stop the pain in my back or leg, I would give it such a pain that the pain caused by tension would fade in comparison. Of course, I followed up by pushing as hard as I could against the pain-by getting into the positions and doing the activities that caused pain. This approach had worked very well. So I advised John to give this strategy a try, too.
When I met John one week later, he said his forearm and hand had improved tremendously. Any time he felt pain or numbness, he grasped his right forearm firmly and told his inner child he would do worse if it did not stop the pain. I was glad to see that this technique worked for him and that he was able to avoid another operation."