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Although there are lots of tms resources taking the route of the “emotion reservoir” that needs to be released, for me thinking of it that way led to the thoughts you express. I am broken, how can I get this anger out. Sometimes I think this was my tms finding another obsession. It really got worse when I started thinking “It must be a trauma”.
It really helped me to hear a talk about trauma from Carrie Poppy, a cohost of “oh no Ross and Carrie”. She has spent years delving in to the subject and has an amazing talk about it :) if you’re interested: https://maximumfun.org/episodes/oh-no-ross-and-carrie/carrie-talks-trauma-pseudoscience-and-social-media-trauma-trap-edition/ (Carrie Talks Trauma, Pseudoscience, and Social Media)
 
Also, on a different note, I don’t think you have to have something wrong with your brain to have TMS. When I look around, almost everyone I know is in some kind of inexplicable pain. I think it’s just one of those things that got mixed in with the whole “cautious brains survive longer” evolution thingy. There are lots of things that we would call little mistakes of evolution, but I think that’s just our human way of looking at it. The great thing about knowledge and research is that we can now know how to deal with our sometimes overly anxious brains
 
TMS is a normal brain mechanism that allowed human beings to develop and survive in prehistoric times. It has not evolved in the short period we would define as the modern world , which has only been a few thousand years, and it works for shit in the modern world. I've written about this many times in more detail.

The mechanism, when faced with our modern stressors, is going into overdrive and is often out of control, and it is subjecting us to the survival stress response 24/7. If you add any kind of adverse childhood experiences or severe trauma to that, you've indeed got a problem. If OCD is present, that is also an advanced level of mental suffering that often does not respond to self help efforts.

Finally, anyone who persistently engages in what I call "Yes, But..." behavior, which is what this thread has turned into in spite of a ton of great advice (4 pages worth!) also has mental health issues that might be beyond the scope of self help resource and this forum.

This is where therapy is helpful, and there are many of us who have benefited and still benefit from regular therapeutic help, myself included. But if you're resistant to therapy, as I seem to recall is the case, @CalmIsTheCure, then I have to say I'm very sorry for your suffering, and I truly wish you good luck.
 
@CalmIsTheCure ,
You’re doing great! Keep going! It really takes some time. Working on TMS is like that game whack-a-mole. You get one symptom to subside and another pops up. There are a bunch of success stories on this forum. They can give you an idea of the many forms healing takes. You’ll get a little comfort as you soak that in. Also, I read posts on this forum every day. Over time, the entire TMS healing process unfolds in your mind’s eye. It really is a big endeavor. Very few people get better fast. But the more work you do, the longer your recovery will last.
 
Hey @CalmIsTheCure ,
I hope I haven’t said anything to make you feel that way. Know that we believe in your ability to get better.

Also I was wondering, though not all comments may resonate with you, was there an advise or a piece of information that you liked and got value from?

remember we’re in this together!
 
I don’t think there’s such a thing as being too mentally damaged, is there? Your brain is clearly working really well or you wouldn’t be here exploring healing. That little voice telling you that you are too damaged is your primitive TMS brain. It wants you to crawl under a rock — literally. It wants you to just stay barely alive, what it considers “safe.” You can override this primitive brain. You know best!
 
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Jettie1989 said:
Although there are lots of tms resources taking the route of the “emotion reservoir” that needs to be released, for me thinking of it that way led to the thoughts you express.
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Also, there's a lot of stories out there of dramatic improvements through a specific emotional breakthrough, and I think it might create some kind of illusion of fast recovery to the person who's starting learning about TMS, which leads to the idea they're broken beyond repair.
 
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Nodody said you were “mentally ill” - that’s your perception of terms, like OCD.
ODC is actually a very common TMS symptom, and often a habit learned as a coping skill as a young child.. and attempt to control some part of our life when we feel we don’t have control. It’s something we just need to learn can be temporary. That means accepting its presence for now, while at the same time retracing the brain to show it is not a needed habit.
Sometimes people need therapy to help the process, sometimes not.
Another way to think of it as TMS is present because we neglected (and usually learned to neglect) our mental health. That does not mean you are mentally ill. Mental health is self-care just like taking care of your physical health. No stigma.
TMS work focuses on our mental health, teaching skills so we learn to care for ourselves and attend to all parts of us, many that we’ve hidden. This part is often difficult for people to accept, and can take time.
Try softening your edges a bit, easing into the idea that this is new, it can be hard but you are very worth your time and effort: all of you. The physical and mental/emotional parts are all worth the effort.
 
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