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Need urgent help and someone to support me :(

Discussion in 'Support Subforum' started by osca aelius, Jan 17, 2019.

  1. osca aelius

    osca aelius Peer Supporter

    I have read so many things about how to overcome TMS and anxiety. Dr Sarno and Claire Weekes. I know the theory so much.

    But i still cant deal with the uncomfortable symptoms. My mind keep analyzing and obsessing why things happened to me, and all of the feelings. The pain and anxiety is killing me.

    I have tried to use acceptance method in the past and it works.

    But now i dont know what to do. There is urge from my mind to keep visiting TMS forums or to read some new information THAT MAY HELP ME. I realize that i already know all of the theory, but i cant keep myself to act normal and at ease. My feelings and urge get the best of me :(

    Anyone know how to deal with my obsessing thoughts? How do i stop checking my symptoms? Im just so tired with my life and reading theory about how to deal with TMS

    Anybody help is appreciated!
  2. Ellen

    Ellen Beloved Grand Eagle

    Are you doing a structured program like the one free on this site (SEP) or one in Schubiner's Unlearn Your Pain? My advice is to find a TMS treatment program and then just do it to the best of your ability in a consistent and patient manner. The structure of spending a certain amount of time (but not too much) every day working on aspects of your TMS is the best approach. Reading theory is helpful, but again don't read too much. But it is through the consistent application of treatment techniques that you will find most helpful.

    Hang in there.
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  3. MWsunin12

    MWsunin12 Beloved Grand Eagle

    You may need a really valid and big distraction, something that takes up brain space in a good way so you don't ruminate on symptoms.
    I don't know your situation, but to break the cycle of your nervous system over-reacting, I don't think you need to read more TMS books.
    Sarno suggested just paying attention to all of it for only 30 minutes a day...and then get on with something else.
    Maybe find a buddy, a partner, to go do something very distracting with....tennis, volunteer work, discovering new neighborhoods, etc.
    Make that person promise to not talk over symptoms with you. Stay true to your promise.
    Your nervous system will simmer down once you aren't "staring" at it 24/7.

    I hope this makes sense. Peace to you.
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  4. HattieNC

    HattieNC Well known member

    I agree that distraction is a wonderful way to stop catastrophic thoughts or ruminating about symptoms. However, everyone on this forum experiences different levels of pain and anxiety. At my worst, I could barely lift my foot off the ground and even sitting on a pillow caused a pain level of 10. Any activity that required physical movement wasn't in the realm of possibility for me at that time. If your pain/anxiety levels are this extreme, then your approach will have to be much gentler than someone who is having pain on a scale of 3 or 4. Guided body scan meditations are wonderful for helping to relax muscles and calm your mind. So is listening to music or an interesting podcast/audiobook. Even small things such as taking a bath, sitting in the sun, or watching birds out the window. Practice self compassion and kindness.
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  5. Andy Bayliss

    Andy Bayliss TMS Coach & Beloved Grand Eagle

    Depending on your ability to move, creating your own music, even if rudimentary is great. So is gently movement to music, even it is just your fingers. I love Hattie's list because there is also a sense of pleasure there. Find pleasure in small things, which may take reorientation, a little practice.


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