Hi all - I have finally really accepted that TMS is the issue. I've had a tight neck/headaches, shoulders up in my ears for more than a decade and several MRIs and x-rays and wasted PT/chiro appointments. I'm a very physically reactive person, definitely due to a traumatic childhood (abuse and neglect) & having to be on the defense all of the time. The muscle tension/pain started around the time I was trying to conceive my second child: many miscarriages, an ectopic, and then a doomed pregnancy with a baby that had fatal anomalies. The fact that I wasn't able to easily have a second child caused me a lot of stress, and the physical 'bracing myself' for more stressors has not stopped. Now, more than a decade later, I have two beautiful, wonderful kids, one of whom is pretty challenging. His contrariness can set my body off: I can feel my blood pressure rising and my muscles tensing and it sometimes gets worse as I sleep. But I also have a physical reaction to so many everyday stressors, like prepping for the classes I teach or packing for a weekend trip, or even an imaginary conversation with a family member. I do (finally) believe that my muscle tension and pain is 100% TMS. For the past two months, I've been aware of my nervous system's response to any perceived stressors, noticing it as it happens, when my kiddo refuses to brush his teeth the sixth time I ask, etc. My question is: what now? Knowing that I'm causing my own pain and noticing it when it happens has not yet reduced it. I've just started working through the curable app and hoping that I can learn about what's missing, but I'm hoping to find some answers here because everyone knows so much. I feel as though I'm primed to react to everything in this tensing manner and I want to learn how to change.