My psychologist believes that mucking through old memories and emotions is just a recipe for getting upset and more suffering. My wife has so few painful memories that she can only recall one or two – I have thousands and could fill books. So is revisiting this painful stuff really the part of the program that heals or am I just rubbing old wounds with salt. Right now one painful memory leads to another and it feels like I am just self flagellating without benefit. In spite of pain, hurt and disappointment all my life I managed graduate degrees and making a fair amount of money and toys I have forever felt like I was stuck together with string and chewing gum. Anyone looking on the outside of my life would conclude I had it made. I need some help on this!