I am married for 47 years. We have a very good marriage, should be, if it lasted that long. There are a lot of minor irritations though, which I take more seriously due to my perfectionist and serious personality. I normally think about what I say, while my wife doesn't. If I talk to her about it, her answer is: "Don't take everything I say so seriously". I probably get more angry about it than I realize, adding to my suppressed anger reservoir each day, which must be at bursting capacity, after 47 years. I feel that this is the main reason for my severe TMS symptoms, burning back pain. I journal-ed today about it and my back pain further increased. This could be a good sign, even though being very painful. I try to look past the pain, to these minor irritations. It is really silly of me to get angry about minor stuff, but this is me. What can I do, beside thinking psychological, to convince my subconscious mind to give up the distraction strategy since its cover is blown ?