I'm wondering what is the most helpful way of "talking to" your TMS symptoms? Do you talk to them aggressively, like "F off!" Or is it more helpful to say something like "Thank you for trying to protect me, but I don't need you to anymore, so you can leave now." I am aware that we are talking to the unconscious mind -- and it is only trying to help, so it seems to me that a kinder approach would be more appropriate. At the same time, I see in Alan Gordon's programme that a more aggressive approach is suggested, perhaps because this demonstrates that we are not AFRAID of the TMS, which is obviously key as well. I'm confused. What have you found more helpful?