Hi there, I'm on day 8 and am more and more convinced that my symptoms are related to TMS. But, I keep running into the problem of how to talk to others. I've experienced pain for the past 1.5 years, and my loved ones are used to me saying "I have a neck injury" or "I injured my ribcage." I'm not sure how to go about changing the narrative. While I have been studying Sarno and TMS for almost a year (took me a while to get on board!), I don't want to have to explain it to others. I feel susceptible to their criticism or skepticism, and since I've already worked hard to work through my own, this feels difficult. It's much easier to just say I have an injury and move on with it, but I don't want that narrative in my brain anymore. I'd love to feel strong enough not to care what anyone says or thinks about it, but I'm just not there yet. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Day 8 How to talk to loved ones about TMS
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Beloved Grand Eagle
Probably the best way is to describe the pain in terms of tension (Tension Myositis Syndrome aka TMS) or explain it in terms of being stress related. Pretty much everybody is on board with those explanations and it allows you to make that vital shift in personal narrative without such compromise.
There will be people in your life who are more open to the emotional and psychological dimensions and perhaps with them you can take matters a little deeper.
Increasingly as you heal, you'll find compassion blossoms and nurtures a strength and kindness that takes you far beyond caring what others think. Instead you care so much that you are able to embrace and soothe their fears and lack of understanding in a very natural and expansive fashion. TMS healing dramatically expands your emotional repertoire so you repress less and feel more but with grace, comfort and ease.
Plum x