This question was submitted via our Ask a TMS Therapist program. To submit your question, click here. Question Learning to say NO Hi I think a lot of my problem is saying 'Yes' to things when I really ant to say 'No'. Currently I am really worried about a project I have been asked to do at work. It is something that will benefit my superior in terms of personal career advancement but for me will just be a huge, extra workload. I am really finding it hard to say no as my superior also has the power to have staff transferred and determines the hours we will be employed. Has anyone got any ideas on how to learn to say no please? I think my 'goodist' nature is not nearly assertive enough which I am sure leads to feelings of resentment.