Hi All,
I am new to this TMSWIKI, I used to belong to tmshelp.com a long time ago.
A year and a half ago my Father who was 84 years old passed away from a hemorrhage stroke caused from a blood thinner he was on. He went quick and it was a shock to all of us.
Before his death, I was living with both Parent's working a part time job so I could help my Dad caregive to my 89 year old Mom who suffered a stroke and now has dementia.
Only a month after my Father died, my brother made himself POA, sold my Mom's house and she bought house in a retirement community closed to my Aunt.
I was very upset about this because my Aunt wanted her close not to help me caregive, but, to help herself to my Mom's money. We basically moved out of the city for the wrong reasons.
My brother bailed on me and left me to have to deal with my Aunt and to care give to my 89 year old Mom. I finally had to discommunicate my aunt from our lives. She caused so many problems and the bickering and backstabbing that went on was very hard on me.
During this time I had endured so much stress as my Mom had a two hour surgery on her leg because of a stent that had collapsed. After her surgery she had developed a double pneumonia and by the Grace of God she recovered. Since then she has landed four times in the ER.
I am her only caregiver and I endured all this by myself, I should mention my Brother and his wife live in California and did not come out to help.
It has been a full year and as a caregiver and being stuck in a senior citizen retirement community! Life has been tough regarding with caregiving, financial problems and long commute to a part time job.
TMS PAIN: After 6 months of trying to endure my difficult aunt and finally forgiving her, I developed right groin pain. It was so bad that the my doctor gave me a CT scan that came back clean. I deceided to treat the pain as TMS and it went away.
In March just two months after the right groin pain and another stressful event occurred I developed TMJ/Trigemenial Nerve pain on the right side of my face.
The doctor tried to treat it with muscle relaxant and ibuprofen none of it helped. I got so severe he ended up giving me a MRI of my brain to see if anything was pressing on my Trigemenial Nerve. The MRI came back clean and I decieded to treat this as TMS.
In less then two days of talking to my brain and telling it I am not going to stand for it the pain disappeared.
Then in April after coming back from the long commute from my part time job, I found the toaster was burnt like it had caught on fire. My poor Mom had tried to toast a snowflake cookie that is paper thin and burnt the cookie and the toaster.
Her dementia was getting a little worst and I feeling scared, and frustrated I got angry at her. It was four hours later that day I had developed right leg sciatica nerve pain.
The pain is in my butt and goes to my calf! It hurts none stop, however, I DO NOT feel numbness just the burn and stinging!
Sometimes it is just in my butt and other times it's in both butt and calf! I also experience cramping as well.
I can not seem to make the sciatica pain go away and after two months I am starting to worry. I am 48 years old and truthfully scared to get an MRI.
I feel like I would be opening a can of worms because at my age I am sure they will find something.
Also, being that I am on a part time job, I can not afford another MRI! Howevert, I am in pain and don't know whatelse to do.
Besides the CT scan, and MRI, I also had a sed rate test done as well....
I am very familiar with Dr. Sarno's work. I have listened to The Divided Mind and Mindbody Perscription and I have also read Steve Ozanich great book The Great Pain Deception.
Truthfully, I have the TMS personality to the "T". I am a DO GOOD, people pleaser, perfectionist, guilt, etc.
My childhood I have suffered bullying to do Asperger's syndrome and Learning difficulties.
I am now trying to juggle without any help caring for my 89 year old Mom all by myself with no help what so ever.
Should I bite the bullet and go to the doctor for the sciatica nerve pain? It seems like I have been getting symptom imperative.
Please help any advise would be appreciated!
Thanks,
Kalo
I am new to this TMSWIKI, I used to belong to tmshelp.com a long time ago.
A year and a half ago my Father who was 84 years old passed away from a hemorrhage stroke caused from a blood thinner he was on. He went quick and it was a shock to all of us.
Before his death, I was living with both Parent's working a part time job so I could help my Dad caregive to my 89 year old Mom who suffered a stroke and now has dementia.
Only a month after my Father died, my brother made himself POA, sold my Mom's house and she bought house in a retirement community closed to my Aunt.
I was very upset about this because my Aunt wanted her close not to help me caregive, but, to help herself to my Mom's money. We basically moved out of the city for the wrong reasons.
My brother bailed on me and left me to have to deal with my Aunt and to care give to my 89 year old Mom. I finally had to discommunicate my aunt from our lives. She caused so many problems and the bickering and backstabbing that went on was very hard on me.
During this time I had endured so much stress as my Mom had a two hour surgery on her leg because of a stent that had collapsed. After her surgery she had developed a double pneumonia and by the Grace of God she recovered. Since then she has landed four times in the ER.
I am her only caregiver and I endured all this by myself, I should mention my Brother and his wife live in California and did not come out to help.
It has been a full year and as a caregiver and being stuck in a senior citizen retirement community! Life has been tough regarding with caregiving, financial problems and long commute to a part time job.
TMS PAIN: After 6 months of trying to endure my difficult aunt and finally forgiving her, I developed right groin pain. It was so bad that the my doctor gave me a CT scan that came back clean. I deceided to treat the pain as TMS and it went away.
In March just two months after the right groin pain and another stressful event occurred I developed TMJ/Trigemenial Nerve pain on the right side of my face.
The doctor tried to treat it with muscle relaxant and ibuprofen none of it helped. I got so severe he ended up giving me a MRI of my brain to see if anything was pressing on my Trigemenial Nerve. The MRI came back clean and I decieded to treat this as TMS.
In less then two days of talking to my brain and telling it I am not going to stand for it the pain disappeared.
Then in April after coming back from the long commute from my part time job, I found the toaster was burnt like it had caught on fire. My poor Mom had tried to toast a snowflake cookie that is paper thin and burnt the cookie and the toaster.
Her dementia was getting a little worst and I feeling scared, and frustrated I got angry at her. It was four hours later that day I had developed right leg sciatica nerve pain.
The pain is in my butt and goes to my calf! It hurts none stop, however, I DO NOT feel numbness just the burn and stinging!
Sometimes it is just in my butt and other times it's in both butt and calf! I also experience cramping as well.
I can not seem to make the sciatica pain go away and after two months I am starting to worry. I am 48 years old and truthfully scared to get an MRI.
I feel like I would be opening a can of worms because at my age I am sure they will find something.
Also, being that I am on a part time job, I can not afford another MRI! Howevert, I am in pain and don't know whatelse to do.
Besides the CT scan, and MRI, I also had a sed rate test done as well....
I am very familiar with Dr. Sarno's work. I have listened to The Divided Mind and Mindbody Perscription and I have also read Steve Ozanich great book The Great Pain Deception.
Truthfully, I have the TMS personality to the "T". I am a DO GOOD, people pleaser, perfectionist, guilt, etc.
My childhood I have suffered bullying to do Asperger's syndrome and Learning difficulties.
I am now trying to juggle without any help caring for my 89 year old Mom all by myself with no help what so ever.
Should I bite the bullet and go to the doctor for the sciatica nerve pain? It seems like I have been getting symptom imperative.
Please help any advise would be appreciated!
Thanks,
Kalo
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