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God I’m miserable

Thanks for the ideas Dian. I feel very treatment resistant. I know it should be possible to get better and that it has something to do with safety. But exactly how— its complicated
 
I think you might be treatment resistant right now. But that doesn’t mean you always will be. Maybe you can find out why? Journal or talk to your inner child. Maybe it will be revealed. I think I was treatment resistant for some time. I recently found out that a part of me doesn’t trust me not to over extend and screw things up if I’m released from my holding bin. I keep talking to this part now and promising I will listen to her going forward. I will listen to the warnings, when I’m in over my head, overriding my true feelings, whitewashing what’s happening. I’m hoping she’s listening to me. She seems to be considering it.
 
Diana-M said:
you might be treatment resistant right now.
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Good catch, @Diana-M.

@Mani, your frequent use of "Yes, But..." and its many variations is a sign of resistance. And also of victimhood. These two states signal being stuck in a downward spiraling negative mindset. You gotta choose to reject that. It's like an addiction, really. First you have to admit you've got an addiction to negative thoughts about yourself. Then you have to figure out a way to talk back and resist giving in to the temptation of that downward pull.
 
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Yeah. Thats what im tryna get my brain to understand lol
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@Diana-M correct me if I'm wrong but @Mani I took this as once you lower your nervous system arousal (which has many causes), then you get the benefit. You have a lot of influence and say over that and there's a lot you can do. Don't get sucked into separating yourself too much from your brain - as I see this all the time then people feel helpless as if it's some foreign entity they have no control over (they throw their hands up and think well there's nothing I can do as it's my brain's fault). You are your brain in many ways and you have a lot of influence (maybe not when it comes to the symptoms directly - but what causes nervous system arousal in the first place absolutely).
 
It's funny how we are all different. For me seeing people living successfully always gives me hope. For if they can do it, so can I.
Like Jan says, MINDSET.
Those people are no better or smarter or.........dare I say it...........healthier......than us.
What they have that we don't have is the mindset that they are healthy. That when they get a pain they go, "hunh, I got a pain" rather than, "OMFG I'M IN PAIN! WHAT'S HAPPENING!!!"
We dwell. We worry. And our bodies pour out more chemicals and various other things to exacerbate and make our false vision of ourselves true.

So what if we change our visions of ourselves? Will our body follow along?
 
Booble said:
It's funny how we are all different. For me seeing people living successfully always gives me hope. For if they can do it, so can I.
Like Jan says, MINDSET.
Those people are no better or smarter or.........dare I say it...........healthier......than us.
What they have that we don't have is the mindset that they are healthy. That when they get a pain they go, "hunh, I got a pain" rather than, "OMFG I'M IN PAIN! WHAT'S HAPPENING!!!"
We dwell. We worry. And our bodies pour out more chemicals and various other things to exacerbate and make our false vision of ourselves true.

So what if we change our visions of ourselves? Will our body follow along?
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Very true!
 
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