I’ve noticed that pretty much everything I’m afraid of falls into one of the following four categories:
A. Things that almost certainly won’t happen
B. Things that wouldn’t be so bad if they did happen
C. A & B
D. Death
Out of these four possibilities, death is the only one that presents a major problem. And since I can’t really do anything to avoid dying, it doesn’t make logical sense to be afraid. This is the argument I use on a regular basis to force myself not to feel fear - perfectly logical right?
But here is the funny thing - sometimes you’re afraid for no reason, and you just have to allow yourself to feel that fear. You can’t squash it, or reason with it, or bully yourself into being less afraid.
Feelings are different from thoughts because they don’t necessarily require any context. Sometimes I feel sad, angry, scared or happy for no reason and I need to learn to accept this rather than endlessly intellectualizing.
I’ve always considered myself to be fairly in tune with my emotions, but I’m starting to realize that I’ve been lying to myself. I’m not so much in touch with my emotions as I am obsessed with the thoughts that I have in response to my emotions.
Any time I feel something, I immediately try and figure out why, and that defeats the purpose. I’m trying to apply left-brain logic to a right-brain phenomenon, which is kind of like trying to hammer nails with a screwdriver - I’ve been using the wrong tools.
I’m trying to get comfortable with simply feeling whatever emotion might come over me without analyzing it to death. The reason this is so hard is because I’m going through a difficult time in my life, so most of my emotions are shitty. But I have to feel them anyway, because avoiding them is what created my TMS in the first place.
So bring on the feelings! The shittier and more illogical the better! I can deal with it.
A. Things that almost certainly won’t happen
B. Things that wouldn’t be so bad if they did happen
C. A & B
D. Death
Out of these four possibilities, death is the only one that presents a major problem. And since I can’t really do anything to avoid dying, it doesn’t make logical sense to be afraid. This is the argument I use on a regular basis to force myself not to feel fear - perfectly logical right?
But here is the funny thing - sometimes you’re afraid for no reason, and you just have to allow yourself to feel that fear. You can’t squash it, or reason with it, or bully yourself into being less afraid.
Feelings are different from thoughts because they don’t necessarily require any context. Sometimes I feel sad, angry, scared or happy for no reason and I need to learn to accept this rather than endlessly intellectualizing.
I’ve always considered myself to be fairly in tune with my emotions, but I’m starting to realize that I’ve been lying to myself. I’m not so much in touch with my emotions as I am obsessed with the thoughts that I have in response to my emotions.
Any time I feel something, I immediately try and figure out why, and that defeats the purpose. I’m trying to apply left-brain logic to a right-brain phenomenon, which is kind of like trying to hammer nails with a screwdriver - I’ve been using the wrong tools.
I’m trying to get comfortable with simply feeling whatever emotion might come over me without analyzing it to death. The reason this is so hard is because I’m going through a difficult time in my life, so most of my emotions are shitty. But I have to feel them anyway, because avoiding them is what created my TMS in the first place.
So bring on the feelings! The shittier and more illogical the better! I can deal with it.
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