I'm really banking on this program working to get me out of pain and back to life!
Over and over again, I see other people here (the ones who have had the true experience of recovery) saying that a mindset similar to "I'm banking on this program" while allowing the brain to continue its negative fearful behavior, is almost a guarantee that progress will be elusive. That is their personal experience, and what they try to get across to beginners is the idea that you have to accept what is, don't watch the calendar, let go of expectations, and begin to change the way your brain has been working during your life "Before Sarno".
I believe this is absolutely true - however, I don't have the same experience of being frustratingly stuck and finally experiencing progress when I let go of expectations - I think because before I read Dr. Sarno, I was already a firm believer in the power of our minds to affect our bodies, and I also firmly believed in the ability to self-heal. What I did not understand is the power of our unconscious
primitive brains to cause nonsensical symptoms purely for the purpose of repressing emotions. That was the final piece of the puzzle for me - I was at 100% acceptance of my own TMS diagnosis before I finished
The Divided Mind, and I never had to look back.
Mind you, I still had emotional work to do. I did the SEP, and I took to heart the lessons in Hope & Help For Your Nerves, I learned about how our brains are wired to be negative as a survival technique (not an effective one in today's modern world) and I found the strength to fight back, hard, against life-long anxiety and a new (and horrifying) experience of depression.
Above all, I learned to listen to my fearful brain as it kept bombarding me with negative messages. And mind you, this is all still a work in progress, because TMS is a survival mechanism, not some kind of condition that can be cured. You have to think differently ("think psychologically, not physically" is the often-repeated mantra) and literally retrain your brain, while being aware that it will fight back with all of its survival-above-all instincts.
There is a 180-degree mind shift which is ESSENTIAL to being successful in doing this work. Once you are able to experience and accept that shift, the ability to shift your thoughts from negative to constructive whenever symptoms arise in the future (and they will) will happen SO much faster than at the beginning of your work. It took about a year until I realized that I had started automatically thinking "TMS!" whenever something tried (or still tries) to distract my attention. Sometimes it's not enough to just think that - if I'm mired in stress and rumination, I still have to force myself to stop. breathe. journal. meditate. That's still necessary sometimes in order to get back on track.
Here's a little mental exercise that really worked for me when I started training after my summer of almost becoming housebound with TMS symptoms - and I believe that super-athletes practice this kind of mental thinking in order to push themselves beyond expectations: Whenever I felt fear about doing something my trainer asked of me, and even if I felt a little twinge of fear-pain, I would tell my brain to stop with the negatives, and instead to visualize my muscles receiving blood flow and getting stronger, and my overall health and my body improving by doing this good thing for myself. So simple. So hard to do, sometimes. But I swear, it absolutely works.
This example is what I mean when I talk about shifting your thoughts from negative to constructive. I prefer the word constructive, because if I say "positive" people think they can simply cover up negativity by adopting a positive attitude - what I call a false happy-face - but it's deeper than that. It is an authentic rejection of negativity and fear, consciously replaced with a realistic vision of what can be achieved by moving forward to accept the new challenge.
For anyone particularly interested in sports and training, I recommend this podcast:
The Mind And Fitness Podcast with Eddy Lindenstein (aka
@LindenSwole here on the forum) although anyone can enjoy his awesome interviews and solo episodes. I made some specific episode recommendations for new listeners, here:
https://www.tmswiki.org/forum/threads/investigating-tms.21817/#post-112648 (Investigating TMS) There are always LOTS of discussions about belief in the diagnosis.
Good luck!
