Dr. Mate's video on The Hidden Cost of Stress is excellent, focusing on pain coming from our lack of being
able to say NO!
He says that in his 25 years of practice, most people get severe or chronic pain because they
have difficulty saying NO to other people's needs or to their own drives or to the rigid identification with a
certain role, like being a spouse, parent, employee, or friend. They are too nice, too dutiful, not being able
to consider themselves in giving to others, such as in caring for elderly parents or injured or ill spouses.
Since they cannot say No, the body says No for them, causing illness or pain, whether it be back pain,
arthritis, asthma, chronic fatigue, or even cancer.
Say NO at times to stay healthy, but go ahead and say YES to watching this video from Dr. Mate,
and others by him in the TMSWiki Mindbody video library. More are to be posted soon.