Doing two things at once?

[Marla]

I was thinking on my walk just now that my reactions to dealing with husbands BPD is what brought back TMS.

We are taught in what's called Stopping the Bleeding, to let the BPDer be right, to agree with them even if we think we are right. It's to stop bad communication and anger issues. Step 1 of a bunch of steps.

You do move on from that to other ways but you start there to I guess plug the hole in the damn before it bursts.

I am a strong willed person so trying to follow this and stuff my feelings this past month I think brought back TMS.

The only way I figure I can follow both is to tell myself, husband means well, and to talk to support friends and journal emotions.

By the way, on my walk back started hurting after only 3 houses, I was tempted to go back home since I leave for work soon but I didn't I told myself it is TMS and emotional stuff causing it. About 1/2 mile later all pain gne and didn't come back. I walk around my large block which includes hills is 2 miles.

 

[Forest]

Having to agree with someone all the time will definitely cause TMS. Of course you don't have to stop agreeing with your husband, as it sounds like the Stopping the Bleedings steps may be having a positive effect. All you really need to do is to recognize that you do have intense emotions and anger. As it sounds like you have been able to realize, simply recognizing your symptoms as TMS and keep going about your day will lead to relief. Keep up the great work. You are on the right path!