Hi, NIClubber. I agree with Ellen and am glad she recommended the book by Conenna.
I also don't understand much of the scientific stuff about TMS. I keep it simple, mainly belief in TMS causing our pain and that it is not structural. I don't think it is necessary to understand the science of TMS. I find it helpful to live in the present, not the past,
ignore any pain, and make every day as pleasant and positive as I can. Deep breathing is really a big help.