Livinginhope
Peer Supporter
I am on the 24th day and have definitely seen some changes for the better. Today, the assignment is to write about a character trait call People Pleaser. When I read that I thought, "that isn't me. If anything, I feel that I have grown away from that trait as I have gotten older." Then I starting to journal and what I realized is that perhaps I am a reformed people pleaser but that my pain is a throwback to when I was. Although I do not really consider myself a caretaker for all, anymore, I definitely do not like confrontation, so I think that when someone "graduates" from being a people pleaser, the new improved form may be "non confrontational." That term feels more adult to me and less threatening. It is easy to say that I am not a people pleaser anymore because my role has changed; my kids are grown and out of the house and I work for myself. Even that allows me to craft the world and manage confrontations or the lack of them more easily. So perhaps what I have strived to do, without realizing it, is to keep from engaging with many people and things just so I don't have to have confrontations and ultimately disappoint someone. Hmm. I guess there is more than one way to please people? Just thinking.
