anger release or creation

[ellie freegan]

I was speaking to someone who does research into psychosomatic illnesses and he said that Hitting bed with tennis racket just creates new anger rather than releasing anger so is actually a negative thing to do what does anyone think about this? Thanks a lot

 

[mike2014]

Yes I agree with him, one needs to feed the inner child with love, compassion and a feeling of stability and warmth. If you keep feeding your mind with negative thoughts you will weaken your fight/flight response and immune system.

 

[Walt Oleksy (RIP 2021)]

I find that being angry about anything before bedtime keeps me awake and angry. I try to relax an hour or more before bedtime by listening to calming music and watching relaxation videos on Youtube. If I do feel angry in bed, I tell myself I will think about it in the morning. Deep breathing and living in the present moment helps me to get a more peaceful mind so I can sleep. A cup of hot milk before bedtime also relaxes me.

 

[FredAmir]

This is a good strategy if you just got really angry and need to release the anger energy.

I do some karate punches combined with screaming to get it out of my system.

But just to hit a bed to release some repressed anger can only create more anger.

 

[Zumbafan]

Dr Sarno said "the rage that is causing your pain, you will never feel". The unconscious works in silence. "Any anger you are aware of has nothing to do with TMS".

 

[Andy Bayliss]

I love releasing anger with a wiffle bat on a pillow or some such. Something that makes a real satisfying sound. I don't think it can hurt you, unless you're on the ropes with your superego, about your anger. And then anger/strength in dealing with the Inner Bully is also the correct response. I think the psychotherapy world has often asked this question ellie, and no great conclusions can be drawn. If it feels good, I say do it. Why not? If it is agitating, don't.

The skilled means of doing it is to physically feel the energy of release in your body, and not get caught that the object of your beating will actually "respond" to your expression. It is all about "energy" and about our own feeling of aliveness in our bodies that can provide support to "be ourselves" more fully. Sometimes in dancing I can feel so strong and muscular, and this is satisfying. This is what "beating the pillow" can give you access to. Or not.

 

[Tennis Tom]

Sounds like fun to me . There's a form of Reichian Therapy that utilizes this kind of stuff as a catharsis of repressed emotions or "affects" for mindbody healing--or you can go over to the TMS Help site and let it all hang out: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vegetotherapy.